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Happy Valentine’s Day to All of You — Especially Our Guest Contributors!

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Guest Blog Post Misc

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!

I just wanted to take a moment and thank the guest writers who have contributed to Poly Land over the past 2 years. I do my best to deliver quality content, but I am only one person.  Part of what I envisioned when I started to publish articles on Poly Land every day was the opportunity to bring OTHER voices into the conversation and help to provide a more rich mix of perspectives. It’s been my honor to present their writing to you readers.

So seriously, thank you! And here’s a little more detail on them.


Fluffy is an academic in training who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place. I often consult them on the experiences of gay men in pansexual polyamorous spaces, as well as nuanced discussions of gender, amatonormativity, and what does and doesn’t constitute systemic discrimination.

Poly Land Articles:

  1. I’m Too Anxious to Be Jealous
  2. Everything I’ve Ever Learned About Non-Monogamy My Puppy Taught Me All Over Again
  3. Sometimes Polyamory Means Sweet Goodbyes and Hurrying Back
  4. Love Is Basically Bias, So What Can You Do?
  5. Love Is A Fire, Baby; Six Metaphors for Relationships
  6. Sometimes Challenging the Relationship Escalator means Starting at the Tenth Floor
  7. Is There a Right Time or Way to Break Up a Relationship?
  8. Being Single Sucks, But We Don’t Want to Hear About It
  9. I Was Treated as a Disease Vector: Why There Are So Few Gay Men in Pansexual Polyamory
  10. Consent Culture Is Hard, Yo.
  11. When Sex Positivity Is Rape Culture With a Bow on It
  12. Is Solo Polyamory Ableist? A Readers’ Response Discussion (joint guest post with LadyHeat)

Regular Haunt: You can follow Fluffy on TikTok at @hyhythefluff.


LadyHeat is a badass lesbian bitch who kicks in the teeth of marginalization. As a writer, she specializes in same-sex erasure, queer isolation, and the realities of living in poverty.

Poly Land Articles:

  1. Dating While Poor Is Difficult, But Doable
  2. Queer “Tourism,” “Safe” Flirting & Straight Women at Strip Clubs: When Allies Endanger Queer People With Their Lack of Understanding
  3. Proximity, Social Pressure, and Same Sex Erasure in Polyamorous Relationship Systems
  4. Is Solo Polyamory Ableist? A Readers’ Response Discussion (joint guest post with Fluffy)


Matt is a polyamorous switch, world class conversationalist, and lover of ethical thought experiments. He has contributed work dealing with masculinity, prejudice in dating, hedonism, and sex trafficking.

Poly Land Articles:

  1. Who Shouldn’t Be Polyamorous?
  2. Twin Demons: How I Learned About Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Monogamy 
  3. The Difference Between Having Preferences and Being a Prejudiced Asshole in Online Dating
  4. Firing a Gun Into a Dark Room: Strip Clubs, Sex Trafficking, and the Hidden Costs of Hedonism

Regular Blog: Confessions of a Hedonist


John dates poly women but usually stays monogamous himself when he does, ending up in mono/poly relationships.  He brings a unique perspective on polyamory and open relationships as a close functionally monogamous observer of them.

Poly Land Articles:

  1. 15 Open Relationship Rules That Make Basically No Sense
  2. A Single Yankee in King Arthur’s Relationship Web: Single and Surrounded by Poly People
  3. There Can Be Only One!: Toxic Masculinity & the One Penis Policy

Regular Blog: carvincustom, Exploring my Brain Meats

Mr. Promiscuous

Mr. Promiscuous is a bi, poly, black man on the path to becoming a sex educator. He answers questions of the adult kind with a casual, respectful, and fun air at his blog Adult Conversations.

He has contributed “Could a Japanese Role Playing Game Help Your Relationship?”

Regular Blog: Adult Conversations

KC James

KC James studied filmmaking and is an avid collector of analog film media. He writes about film and TV trivia for Popcorn Logic: Film & Television.

He has contributed The Surprisingly Long History of Polyamorous & Non-Monogamous Films in Hollywood.

Regular Haunt: Popcorn Logic: Film & Television

Kitty Rea

A school teacher in disguise, Kitty has a desire to help others. Aspiring to become a sex educator, she writes about sexuality, kink and alternative relationship styles and hosts a brand new Romanian podcast on love and lust. She teaches bondage all over Europe and is on a fabulous mission to spread self-love, equality and consent.

She has contributed “…So Who’s the Father?”

Regular Haunt: KittyRea dot com

Fay Creature

Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.

She has contributed  Managing a D/s Dynamic When Your Partner Faces Mental Health Challenges.

Justin Case

Geek by day, geek by night, Justin Case grew up in a town without stoplights and developed his impressive mechanical skills by taking apart toasters when he was still in diapers (thankfully, he survived those early experiments and is still with us). An engineer who specializes in systems, he’s found this background to translate rather well to problem-solving in polyamorous relationship systems.

Justin Case manages all the technical systems for Poly Land and co-runs Braided Studios, promoting education and awareness about alternative relationships of all types alongside his partner Page Turner.

After persistent urging from Page, he has contributed Why Does No Mean Something Different Based on Who Says It?

Regular Haunt: the shadows


W0ndercunt is a Dominant sadomasochist as well as a leader in her local kink community.

She has contributed Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?

Regular Haunt: Fetlife Profile


Daphne is a former journalist and current erotica author who has been involved in various BDSM communities for over a decade, including time in leadership.

She has contributed The Sex Trap: What Polyamorous People Do Versus What Monogamous People Think We Do

Regular Blog: DM’s Words

Smashwords Author Page: Daphne Matthews


Thank you all so much!

Guest Post Submission Guidelines

Who We Are

Poly Land is a website that publishes new content daily on relationships, psychology, kink, and general self-improvement. The work we feature is relevant to all types of relationships, but we do have an editorial focus on polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy.

Types of Content Accepted

All content submitted to Poly Land should be 100% original work. No previously published posts.

Please review our website for examples of the kind of work we publish.

We’re looking for non-fiction posts: How-to articles, research roundups, and personal stories.

We do not accept fiction or poetry at this time for Poly Land.

Post Guidelines

Pieces should be 300 to 2000 words. However, most articles that appear on Poly Land are 500 to 1000 words. Longer pieces are occasionally considered but must warrant that length.

Generally speaking, we look for the following:

  • An interesting perspective
  • Clear, easy to follow writing
  • Humor a plus (where appropriate)

Personal pieces are great, provided our readers can follow, relate, and gain insight.

Any sources should be included within the submitted piece by placing them where they are cited in the piece, in brackets – [  ].  When possible, we prefer online sources so that our readers can easily navigate to them. If the source is hard copy, please provide the link to the book somewhere online (Google Books, WorldCat, its Amazon listing, etc).

Submission Guidelines

Posts may be submitted via our online form here.

You may submit an article pitch or the entire post (if already written).

In your submission, please include links to your other online work so we can get a better sense of your overall writing style.

Once a piece of writing is submitted to us, it becomes property of Braided Studios, LLC. You are encouraged to share the published article with people you know but are prohibited from reposting the entire article on your personal blog or anywhere else without express permission from Poly Land. If your work is accepted, Poly Land reserves the right to edit headlines and body copy.

Poly Land strives to respond to all pitches and submissions within 1 week. If you haven’t heard from us in 2 weeks, you can assume it’s a no.

When time permits, we will contact rejected contributors and explain why pieces didn’t meet our needs.


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