The Supernormal Stimulus: Figuring Out What Matters Most to Your Partner & Doing It

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In the 90s, I lived with a wide variety of people. Sometimes I stayed with relatives, but other times I crashed at friends’ houses, friends who were still living with their parents, since their teenaged home lives were more conventional than my own.

At one house I crashed with college professors who had the world’s smallest,  » Read more

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No Monsters, No Saints: Abusers Can Be Kind, the Abused Can Be Abusive

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I spent a couple of years seriously studying medical terminology, preparing to work as a medical transcriptionist. Anatomy & Physiology. Pharmacology. A multi-semester course on Disease Processes.

I noticed quickly that some of the students were troubled about what we were learning about the myriad ways that the human body can break down.  » Read more

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Kindness Misers: “I’m Always Doing Everything for Everyone Else”

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“I’m always doing everything for everyone else,” she says. “And where does it get me?”

I’m taken aback. I’m not sure where this is coming from. She’s got good qualities, but she’s far from anybody’s whipping boy. If anything, she’s more selfish than most.

“To hell with what they think,” she says,  » Read more

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The Curse of Self-Protection: “Don’t Make That Face, It’s Gonna Freeze That Way.”

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It’s not easy being a kid. Kids have all the emotions that adults have, but they’re yet to figure out coping skills. Especially the little ones.

They act on their emotions rather than dealing with them. Excessive stress leads to behavioral problems.

However, in some ways, I admire their lack of emotional regulation.  » Read more

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What I Learned from Watching Masterchef Junior

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On its face, Masterchef Junior is a lot like other reality TV cooking competitions. Cooks are pitted against each other week to week as they face various wildly improbable challenges. Something like cooking for the client from Hell, armed only with canned mushrooms.

Making pasta from scratch within a ridiculous time limit.

That kind of thing.  » Read more

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