Many years ago, I got divorced. It was an experience that threw me completely off guard. I wasn’t at all prepared for what a divorce would be like.
Frankly, I never thought I would be someone who got divorced. (To be fair, however, I never thought anyone would want to marry me in the first place, » Read more
In yesterday’s edition of Psyched for the Weekend, I talked about adolescent disembedding, a normal developmental stage in which teenagers create emotional distance and rebel against rules in order to establish and understand their own identity.
Today I wanted to tackle another hallmark of adolescence: The personal fable. » Read more
What Is the Personal Fable?
It’s broadly known that teenagers become rebellious. Even the sweetest children often have a phase in adolescence where they test the limits set upon them. And many kids at this point will also arbitrarily and suddenly decide at this point as well that even parents they were formerly close to are now tragically uncool.
It’s so common a phenomenon that it’s a trope. » Read more
Your article today about perspecticide was a total game changer. I had no idea what dependent personality disorder was and suddenly all of my struggles make sense. (I also was involved in a perspecticide relationship for 4 years in my early 20s). I’ve been in therapy for 2 years. » Read more
This holiday season is going to be hard. Not just for me but for a lot of people.
I’m celebrating it alone with my live-in partner and our cats and birds. (And a much put-upon catgrass plant that I maintain with varying degrees of success.)
COVID-19 is spiking, so it’s by far the safest way to do things — » Read more
I’ve found myself wondering a lot lately how so many people can be comfortable taking needless risks in the face of COVID-19. One study I’ve covered found a link between sociopathy and mask shunning. (Yeah, kind of a sensational premise maybe but if the shoe fits…)
But you have to be careful about painting people all with the same brush. » Read more
Kind of a miscellaneous gripe today, folks, but bear with me. I know they’re in vogue and tend to share well on social media (ah, so many writers are the mercy of the algorithm gods), but I generally don’t do a lot of ranty, complaining posts because… I don’t rant a lot in real life? » Read more
This has been an awfully strange year for me. Since the middle of March, I’ve seen no one else in person aside from my live-in partner and the occasional delivery driver (both of us masked). The only person I’ve been unmasked around has been my live-in partner.
These are the perfect conditions for the kind of insularity that can threaten a bond, » Read more
Stressful jobs can lead to you not getting enough sleep. And as it turns out, not getting enough sleep can make it easier for stressful fearful events to take hold of us. Today’s study drills down into this vicious cycle with the help of brain imaging.
Prior to this experiment, one third of the study participants slept normally, » Read more
I’ve long been an advocate for the importance of being able to take other people’s perspectives — in general but specifically when it comes to close relationships. The worst conflicts I’ve had have been whenever one or both of us became utterly intransigent. Fixed in our views. And wouldn’t entertain that the other person was inhabiting a different position, » Read more