I Really Wish I Could Attend at Least One of My Father’s Funerals in Person

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I’m not sure why I feel so apologetic whenever Mom asks the question I’m getting used to getting from her. “Are the covid cases going down in Dallas yet?”

“No,” I text back. “They’re going up.”

It’s been a long string of record days. Everything’s going in the wrong direction.

A Different Funeral Experience Than Any of Us Had Planned

When Dad passed away in April,  » Read more

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Moving Forward Isn’t About Having No Regrets. It’s About What You Do With the Regrets You Have.

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It’s very easy to say you have no regrets, and it sounds damn cool. It gives off the impression that you’re either a person who is supremely confident. Or one who has mastered the art of self-compassion.

I’m pretty sure I’ve even said it in passing. In my everyday life and maybe even in my essays.  » Read more

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When You Already Know What Your Problem Is & What to Do About It

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“I think you’re much too hard on yourself,” he says. “You have a strong negative self-bias.”

“One of the strongest of anyone you’ve ever met?” I ask.

He nods. “You think everything’s your fault, whenever anything goes wrong. And it’s not.”

I know what he means. In a perverse confirmation of what he’s saying,  » Read more

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The Grass Is Always Greener in My Head

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I am really good at falling in love. And when I do, I typically put people up on pedestals. In fact, it was only a few years ago that I stopped doing that. And it took being on the other side of things, dating someone who had me up on a really high pedestal.

So high that when I showed up as just little old me and not a goddess that shattered her wildest expectations…  » Read more

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