Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.
Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).
Here’s what they wrote for us today:
Finding Something Problematic Tells Me More About You
As someone who does the delicate dance between the worlds of social justice and diversity and inclusion, » Read more
There’s an old school of thought in business called “underpromise, overdeliver.”
Essentially, this advice says that what you should do is set customer expectations low so that you can not only meet them but exceed them. That it’s important not only to satisfy your customers but to thrill them.
It might take extra effort than simply setting up reasonable expectations and meeting them (the double think and communication required to have one internal story for employees and another external one for customers), » Read more
One of the things you learn very early on when you study psychological research is that what people say they do and what they actually do don’t always line up. In fact, they quite frequently differ. So as a researcher (who also happens to be a woman), it’s not surprising to me that it’s not all that uncommon for women to fake orgasms at least once in their life. » Read more
“I don’t get it,” she says. “I’m a nice person. I try really hard. Say what I mean. Mean what I say. Keep my promises.”
I nod. “You do. It’s one of the things I love most about you. You’re reliable, a rare quality today. It’s Flake City out there.”
She nods. » Read more
We’re stopped at a Subway in Kentucky. On our way to Georgia, to a large conference called Frolicon, due to land later that evening.
My husband, who grew up in rural Michigan, is suddenly talking like a cowboy. “Yes, ma’am, no ma’am, thank you kindly.” It’s appropriate given the context but jarring. He code switches like it’s no big deal. » Read more
I don’t know if there’s one typical way to grow up, but I’m sometimes told by the people closest to me that I grew up in pretty unusual circumstances. I wrote about it at more length in earlier essays (for example, this one), but the short version is that in the 90s, » Read more
“You posted a meme a few weeks back,” he says. “One that made me laugh aloud and then hurt. Because it was so true.”
“I know that feeling,” I say. “Which one was it, just out of curiosity?”
“It had a picture of someone hiding from a bunch of police officers, » Read more
Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature.
Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.
And check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:
Mental Health and My D/s Dynamics
I believe that BDSM can be very healing, » Read more
Have you ever worked on a project that felt really doable and straightforward at the beginning? One where you set out with a clear vision of how it was going to unfold, only to find as you worked your way through it that there was a lot that you missed on your initial planning?
At first, » Read more
“Oh yeah,” Past Me said. “This is a great plan. I’ll have plenty of time to get it all done.”
Of course she’d say that. She never has to actually do anything she signs me up for.
What a jerk, Past Me.
Typically, » Read more