PQ 13.6 — In what ways am I empowered in my relationships? What things help me to feel empowered?

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PQ 13.6 — In what ways am I empowered in my relationships? What things help me to feel empowered?

The Power and Responsibility of a Blank Check

I absolutely love my current agreements. I have carte blanche with my anchor partner Justin (the artist formerly known as Skyspook). Carte blanche is French for “white card.”  » Read more

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The Conscientious Polyamorist

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A study came out a while back correlating personality traits with polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. I read it with great interest but didn’t write about it for a long time.

Frankly, I was rather feelsy about the results:

  1. Having an openness to experience made it more likely that someone would have positive attitudes towards consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and be willing to engage in those kinds of relationships
  2. People high in conscientiousness were markedly less likely to have consensually non-monogamous relationships and in general held more negative attitudes toward them

As the study authors wrote about the second point:

“[I]ndividuals who tend to be very organized,  » Read more

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When You’re Used to People Pressuring You, Patience Can Be Life-Changing

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She’s been pushed too far. Way too many times. And what she wants more than anything is for you to wait.

All she wants is time to make up her mind. Enough so that she can really sort through and consider her feelings. Enough to make sure this is what she wants. Moving too quickly in the past has led to buyer’s remorse.  » Read more

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PQ 13.3 — What are my existing commitments? How can I meet them while still making room for new relationships?

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PQ 13.3 — What are my existing commitments? How can I meet them while still making room for new relationships?

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I’ll admit it. There are days when I feel like I’m playing Tetris with only the top few lines open. Trying to spin those clunky blocks in basically no space at all,  » Read more

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