Well, today’s study is kind of cool. I haven’t written about it too much, but both of my parents had insomnia. They both had different kinds, and I took after both of them, so sleep has been a constant struggle for me throughout my life. When I was a little girl, I was usually the first one up in the house, » Read more
Men & Women Are Different When It Comes to Being Willing to Help Crying People
I’m a person who has always cried pretty easily. It’s one of the reasons I know I’m sensitive, even though I try not to let things get me down and to bounce back. Over the years, I’ve learned how to work around my tears when they spring up at an inconvenient time. I have a bunch of mental/physical tricks to prevent myself from crying at a bad time. » Read more
How to Deal With It When One Partner Wants to Have Deep Conversations Before Bed & the Other Really Doesn’t
Hi Page,
I really liked your article “I Wish I Didn’t Feel Like Having Deep Conversations Right Before Bed.” It was relevant to me because I’ve been in both positions. I’ve been the person wanting to talk about something heavy at the wrong time and also the person who just wants to get to sleep already and is annoyed. » Read more
My Life Got So Much Better When I Stopped Worrying if I Were Good-Looking & Assumed I Was Average
I mentioned this a bit in an earlier post, but one of the most helpful things I ever did was to stop worrying if I were good-looking. Instead, I started to just assume I was average.
If people compliment my appearance, I thank them and leave it at that. No need to argue like I’m Jimmy Stewart lecturing an old-timey movie courtroom. » Read more
I Promise I Will Never Be Passive-Aggressive With You
I know she hurt you, but I’m not her.
I never will be. Never have been.
It’s tough sometimes, how you confuse us. How you assume that when I’m quiet and sad that it’s because I’m passive-aggressively seething. That I’m going to trick you or trap you.
I know that’s what she did. » Read more
Being Constantly Told to Shut Up When You’re a Kid Sticks With You
“You got your creativity from me,” my mother says. “Your father was good at many things, but he didn’t have a creative bone in his body.”
My father passed away in April. He was an inventor, a construction engineer. A brilliant blue collar man. He wasn’t a very talkative person — unless you got him going about something he was passionate about — » Read more
I’ve Always Been a Sucker for a Comeback & It Almost Destroyed Me
There’s a meme that’s been flying around for some time that talks about how kids who were mistreated will learn to love unwanted things. I personally have loved Godzilla and other kaiju for a very long time. And a lot of other people I know who had rough childhoods will frequently root for the villain. » Read more
Huh. Unattractive People Overestimate Their Attractiveness; Attractive People Underestimate Theirs.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listened to a super attractive friend or romantic partner tell me they looked like crap. Or asked for reassurance that they looked okay — when in fact, they looked stunning.
This kind of behavior can actually be a little trying. It can come off as a disingenuous form of attention-seeking. » Read more
Rich People Might Actually Be Clueless When It Comes to Others
Boy, oh boy, peer-reviewed psychological research is getting lit lately. There is a lot of study in the area of how being wealthy can affect the way that you treat other people.
For example, a former installment of this same series covered a study which demonstrated that being rich in money can also mean being poor in both empathy and scruples. » Read more
I Wish I Didn’t Feel Like Having Deep Conversations Right Before Bed
I’ve been thinking about it for a couple of days. When I first started to worry, I thought maybe it would be a passing thought. A lot of things are. Most things are no big deal, and with time a concern seems silly.
But this one worry has persisted. And I’ve spent most of the day preceding thinking about it. » Read more