Even before the pandemic drove so many inside, I can tell you that an awful lot of people are pretty much always online.
And it’s not just people who want to be online. These days I do most of my work online (as someone who writes for a living), which means spending a lot of time online, » Read more
“I wonder sometimes if seeing behind the curtain makes you respect me or my writing less,” I say to a friend. “You get to see what it actually looks like in practice. You get to see how I apply — or don’t — what I put out there into the wider world. How it sometimes matches exactly and other times might have to look a little different. » Read more
“When you get a chance, could you add another bottle of this to your next order?” you ask me.
It’s a bottle of white vinegar. You have the humidifier apart. It’s hanging out in the kitchen sink.
“What are you doing?” I ask.
“I’m cleaning the humidifier,” you reply. » Read more
I’ve been really enjoying your series of posts on underrepresented identities (asexual, aromantic, demisexual, semi-demi, etc.). It’s been really interesting and eye opening for me.
There was one line that really threw me for a loop though in your piece about aromantic polyamorous people: “Finally, » Read more
I love your blog. You have a really fascinating way of framing topics that never would have occurred to me to even think about. I’m not polyamorous myself. I would say I’m more curious at the moment. This is a relatively new development. Even just a few years ago I would have sworn that I would never be interested in non-monogamy. » Read more
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very little sense to people who don’t have those issues. But perhaps it will still be of utility to those who don’t struggle with people pleasing — but have loved people who do and will get some insight into what goes on in the minds of people they love. » Read more
You know… I’ve done it. I’ve had breakup sex.
It was just the one time, actually. I was lonely — went to hang out with this ex. I didn’t even go there hoping to hook up. It was a rough period of my life where I just really didn’t have much of a support system. » Read more
He’s complaining about his love life. I mean, I don’t blame him. It’s been a long dry spell, so I see what he means.
But I can see he does have a few folks interested in him — and I’m starting to feel like he might just be stuck in one of those vicious cycles. » Read more
Rubber duckie, you’re the one
You make bath time lots of fun
Rubber duckie, I’m awfully fond of you
-“Rubber Duckie” by Jeff Moss (performed by Ernie on Sesame Street)
Ah, rubber ducking, you wonder of wonders. It’s such a great tool — » Read more
I have always cared a lot about other people. I wasn’t a person who was afraid to pay compliments to other people or tell my friends (and later crushes) how I felt about them. Instead, I was brave. I put myself out there. Openly admired others.
For a long time, this wasn’t reciprocated — » Read more