We are not alone, but are biologically wired and evolutionarily designed to be deeply connected to one another.
I’ve never been able to stop love once it starts. I grow things to their limit. Like an overzealous plant sending out runners in every direction. Choking the garden with roots. » Read more
“I’ve been polyamorous for years,” she says. “And we’ve done so many things together. Wild adventures. I’ve seen her do sexual stuff plenty of times with others. It never bothered me. But I walked in on them in each other’s arms and… ugh.”
“And it pulled at you?” I say, nodding. » Read more
Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.
They previously contributed “I Was Treated as a Disease Vector: Why There Are So Few Gay Men in Pansexual Polyamory” to Poly.Land.
Fluffy’s regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; » Read more
PQ 9.12 — Am I asked to “respect” my partner or her other partners, but feel that this respect is not reciprocated?
There’s a great quote that has been flying around the Internet the past couple of years about respect:
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” » Read more
PQ 9.11 — Do I feel that my partner considers me inferior to him or his other partners?
“I wasn’t sure who… you were with,” the new girl says hesitantly, with a gentle emphasis on the last word. Her eyes dart from Skyspook to CC and back again. » Read more
I’m out on a long walk when I see him. A flash of red just at the edge of my vision. And then I hear the song.
I pivot to see him perched up on a power line on the other side of the road.
They say when you see a cardinal in your yard, » Read more
There are few things scarier than falling in love with someone who lacks an emotional immune system. An internal sense of “this is how I’d like to be treated.” Ways of identifying harmful behaviors. And the ability to ward off those who would mistreat them.
This state of vulnerability is bad enough in monogamy. » Read more
Have you ever considered, beloved other, how invisible we are to each other? We look at each other without seeing. We listen to each other and hear only a voice inside our self. The words of others are mistakes of our hearing, shipwrecks of our understanding. How confidently we believe OUR meanings of other people’s words. » Read more
“You’re into that?” I say. “That’s pretty neat.”
“Really?” she replies, her eyes wide.
“Yeah, it’s kind of a cool fetish.”
“Huh,” she says.
“I’ve just never had anybody react that way before. When I told them that I was into that,” she says. » Read more
I’ve long been a fan of Amy Gahran’s work. Under her pen name Aggie Sez, Gahran founded the blog solopoly.net, where she has been writing for many years about the unique challenges faced by those who tackle “life, relationships, and dating as a free agent.”
One post in particular, “Riding the Relationship Escalator, » Read more