PQ 19.4 — How do I feel about having unbarriered sex with someone who is having unbarriered sex with someone else?
Wow, Chapter 19 is a very nosy chapter. But that’s okay. I’m the one who decided to answer all of these questions in public with essays. One hundred percent me. » Read more
PQ 19.3 — Does unbarriered sex carry emotional significance to me?
One afternoon as I was poring over posts in one of the many polyamorous groups that I lurk in, I discovered that there was a new in-group war over the term “fluid bonding.”
For those who haven’t heard it before, » Read more
I’ve Been Poly My Whole Life — Polymathic
I’m different than a lot of other polyamorous educators because I haven’t been polyamorous my whole life. In fact, polyamory wasn’t even something I seriously considered until I was in my late 20s. Before then, I hadn’t even heard of the word. And I couldn’t fathom how non-monogamous relationships could be conducted in a way that was respectful and mutually beneficial for everyone involved. » Read more
I will destroy you in the most beautiful way possible. And when I leave, you will finally understand why storms are named after people.
“I keep warning you I’m a heartbreaker,” I warn him, toying with the plastic straw in my cup. » Read more
It’s Saturday. We’re both working in the living room on our laptops.
Delighted as always to be workaholics.
His Spotify mix is playing in the background, a kind of active white noise to smooth out the normal ambient noises. The peaks and silences of the house. Our neighbors. The street.
I’m not even registering the music, » Read more
Hi Page! Your writing has been such a source of community and inspiration for me, especially as someone fairly new to polyamory. I’m wondering: what is your experience with healing from a breakup while still in other romantic relationships? My long-term partner and I recently broke up. I started seeing someone else pretty shortly afterwards. » Read more
I recently went through a breakup and a confusing one at that. I’m usually pretty good at sensing when there’s trouble in paradise, but this threw me for a loop. The breakup came out of nowhere. It seemed like everything was going so well!
I had originally met this ex through a mutual friend who set us up, » Read more
PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?
No, sex isn’t a mandatory part of an intimate relationship with me. » Read more
PQ 19.1 — How do I define “sex”? What activities are sex? What aren’t?
Yes, this question! Everyone, take a look at this question. You would think it’s straightforward, no? And that people would agree on the answer.
But no, they do not.
Famously, » Read more
I’m Old Friends with Doubt
Like a lot of things in my life, this post almost didn’t happen.
I had a million reasons why I couldn’t write it. A lot of them are quite familiar by now: I’m a hack. No one cares what I have to say. And I can’t really write anyway. » Read more