When you first start dating someone, everything is new and exciting. And then after a while, even a great relationship has a way of becoming routine. Even predictable.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Here are 7 ways to make an old relationship feel shiny and new: » Read more
PQ 5.9 — How do I respond to criticism from people close to me?
I’d love to say that I respond with textbook emotional maturity when I’m criticized by those closest to me. But I don’t.
I take solace in knowing that I’m not the only one who struggles with this. » Read more
They make it easy for you when you’re a patient. Everything’s broken down into bite-sized pieces.
They tell you what to do. When to do it. And none of it is very hard. Laying a trail of breadcrumbs before you. You only have to follow.
“Take everything off and put on this gown,” » Read more
PQ 5.8 — Who are my mirrors? Whom do I rely on to call me on my mistakes?
It was the world’s tackiest wedding RSVP.
She’d RSVP’ed no of course. And that was no big deal. But it was what she wrote next to it that took things over the top: I do not feel it’s appropriate to publicly witness, » Read more
I came across the following question in Amy’s Dickinson’s advice column for the Boston Globe:
Q. My husband and I recently discovered that our closest friends (another couple) are having an open relationship. They say they are “polyamorous.”
I am having a very hard time accepting this. » Read more
PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values [the values that are most important in myself and others]?
For the most part, I do a pretty okay job making choices that are consistent with my values. This is a good thing as it causes me a fair bit of distress whenever I depart from my values. » Read more
“I’m sorry. I fucked up,” I say. And in the next breath I’m sobbing. “I really fucked up,” I say, once I catch my breath.
“Yeah, you really did,” Skyspook says in the darkness. I can’t see his face, but I know he’s frowning.
He pauses for what seems like forever. » Read more
PQ 5.6 — What values are the most important to me in myself and in others?
Like a lot of people, I have multiple important values that mean a lot to me. But for years, I’ve been envious of people who could distill their top value into a single word. Working in organizational development, I run into this a lot, » Read more
You Can’t Un-Learn a Thing
Once upon a time, I hadn’t even heard of the word “polyamory.” But when a friend came out to me as polyamorous, that changed forever.
You can’t un-learn a thing.
It was a paradigm shift. I no longer saw a strict binary: Monogamy/non-monogamy. With monogamy, as the ideal goal, » Read more
PQ 5.5 — How much do I value personal autonomy, transparency, cohabitation, having and raising children, shared finances, community, tradition, the opinions of my friends and family, adhering to social norms?
Wow. Okay. This is roughly 9 questions. I have a lot of answering to do. No time to waste. Here we go! » Read more