“I think the worst thing about my ex,” she says. “Wasn’t that he treated me badly. He was actually pretty good to me.”
I nod. “It always seemed that way, from the outside.”
“It was that he didn’t treat me any better than anyone else,” she says.
“Are you talking about his other partners? » Read more
I still think fondly of Jay.
I met Jay at a student pagan gathering. When I’d called the office asking if atheists were welcome (how I identified at the time), I was assured that they were completely interfaith. Even practitioners of Abrahamic religions were encouraged to attend.
But I noted as soon as I arrived that I was surrounded by Wiccans. » Read more
“I wish you’d just own up to what’s really going on here,” he says.
“You don’t really think it’s a bad idea. Admit it,” he says. “You’re just jealous.”
I don’t know what to say. I settle on, “That’s not what this is about.”
Because it’s true I’ve had my insecurities in the past regarding him but not to an unusual magnitude. » Read more
“I’ll be right back,” I say to Justin and Eva as I leave our table at the jazz club to seek out the ladies’ room.
We’ve been there for a few hours, having drinks, eating dinner, the three of us all out on a date together. I’m so in love I can’t stand it. » Read more
PQ 14.9 — Has anyone been harmed by this agreement?
Godzilla rampages through the city, toppling buildings, pulling down high-voltage power lines. Electricity spits along the pavement like an exclamation point.
Godzilla beats his chest. Roars.
Under his gigantic feet, citizens scurry every which way. » Read more
Slut Shaming Is Bad, I Am Sex Positive
I recently wrote a post in which I delved into a possible explanation for why some people slut shame others, drawing from the work of social psychological researchers who have delved into why female sexuality, in particular, is so often suppressed. Discouraged. Stigmatized. And yes, » Read more
PQ 14.8 — Has this agreement been successful in meeting the needs it was intended to meet?
In a previous life, I worked as a manager in organizational development. A consultant to Human Resources professionals at various companies.
In that capacity, I had a large staff of trainers that I oversaw, » Read more
polysaturation (noun) – when a polyamorous person has as many significant others as they think they can handle at a given time
As I write this piece, I have three partners: There is of course my husband Justin Case. I’ve been with him for 6 years, and we were close friends for about a year prior to that. » Read more
[Please note that I wrote a follow-up post to this one: For the record, I think slut shaming is bad.]
I was raised in a house where work ethic was lauded as the highest virtue. My father was away for weeks at a time on work trips. When he was in town, » Read more
I recently wrote a piece called “What Is Romance? What Makes Hooking Up and Hanging Out Different Than a Relationship?” In that article, I reflect on a conversation I had with a potential new romantic partner about labels and what I’m looking for.
I was thrown a bit off guard by the interaction, » Read more