“Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”
-Erica Jong, Fear of Flying
When we become jealous, the source is often so difficult to pin down. Emotions are complicated, sure, but it’s not just that. We’re also not that great at identifying emotions when we have them. » Read more
When you are traversing the wilds of Poly Land, you’ll surely encounter many loving folks. However, not everyone you meet will show their love in the same way. That’s why it’s important to know the poly love languages — not only your own but those of everyone you love. To make this even easier we’ve written another quiz! » Read more
When Skyspook and I married in 2012, it was against an unusual backdrop. I was divorced and had already done the traditional “forsaking all others, til death do us part” wedding ceremony. We all saw how that turned out. I knew this time I wanted to do things a little differently and have a polyamorous wedding ceremony. » Read more
There are so many different kinds of love. We really only have one word in English to address a wide variety of feelings. I’ve seen this play out in a number of different, problematic ways. I ran into a situation last summer where the L word got me into trouble, where what was more of a friendly love was taken as something far more serious. » Read more
I wasn’t the same woman after it happened, after I slept with a bisexual poly woman who wanted me just as much as I wanted her.
She was so incredibly soft. Her body slipped over me like a silk sheet as we rocked together, to waves only we felt.
I swam under her. » Read more
“I need you to come to the office as soon as you can,” my editor said.
“O-o-h okay,” I stammered. After all, the phone call was pretty confusing. Usually he emailed me.
“And bring your tapes,” he said, before hanging up.
I was there within the hour and handed him the cassette tape from my last assignment. » Read more
“I feel like you’re my poly sherpa,”¹ he said.
I flushed. “Hope that’s a good thing.”
“Good? No, it’s great.” He had wanted to try polyamory for a long time, even been in a technically poly relationship, but in name only.
Now he was dating me. I’d been polyamorous for many years. » Read more
A lot of us are guilty of giving poly honor student answers.
“You’re poly?” we’re asked. “Aren’t you worried about diseases?”
And we answer with the standard-issue Poly Honor Student answer, which goes a little something like this: “Of course we are, but we all practice safe sex and are regularly tested.”
Of course, » Read more
Timing is everything in relationships. In monogamous (or serial monogamous) terms, if two people want to date, they must be available at the same time, i.e., not otherwise partnered. Unless of course one or both of them cheat, and deception is not the preferred way to start things off. One would think that this conflict, » Read more
I have a poly parenting question which is related to the subject in this post.
You say “under the influence of NRE, people have been known to neglect important responsibilities at work, make poor financial decisions, and skimp on sleep and other self-care”.
What if the important responsibility is their children, » Read more