I always forget about projection. It’s such a sneaky interpersonal dynamic. And if you don’t recognize it for what it is, you can get thrown way off track. End up arguing for hours about things that one person doesn’t even feel but the other person is convinced that they must.
“It’s been a day,” I say finally.
“Yeah,” you reply.
I usually don’t. When I’m in love, I’m the last one to know. And what typically happens is that someone else realizes. Sometimes they just plain tell me. “Oh my God, you have feelings for them!”
During the bad things, I tend to kick into survival mode. There’s no energy to cry.
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