26 results found.
26 results found.
PQ 12.9 — Do I understand the needs my partner is seeking to meet by requesting veto, and have I considered alternative ways of meeting those needs?
Where I grew up at least, the cars they use for driver’s ed have a second set of controls on the passenger’s side. » Read more
PQ 12.6 — Do I use the word veto to describe something other than an ability to unilaterally end a partner’s relationship — for example, when I give input to my partners about how I feel about their other relationships? If so, why? Is there something about the word that reassures me in a way that negotiation and input do not? » Read more
PQ 12.1 — Under what circumstances do I feel it’s appropriate for me to use veto?
Welcome to Chapter 12!
I futz about on Quora from time to time. Not as busy or as active as some, for sure, but occasionally I get on there and answer questions. » Read more
PQ 3.3 — Does my decision impose obligations or expectations on others without their input or consent?
That distinction between setting a personal boundary and controlling behavior? It’s a paradox. In some ways, it’s so simple. Asserting boundaries is about establishing what you are or are not okay with. » Read more
friendamour (noun) – a close friend of a partner that’s a lot like a metamour in terms of importance
“Page, you have to help me,” he says to me.
“What’s going on?”
“I’m losing my mind. I’ve never been so nervous,” he says to me.
“Honey,” » Read more
PQ 24.3 — Do I understand and agree to any rules that will apply to my relationship?
Here are a few questions I’ve answered in this series that cover very similar territory to today’s:
First of all, I want to thank you so much for your blog! I take a lot of support and encouragement from your writing. I especially enjoy your strictly non-dogmatic, personal and individual approach. You have the rare gift of being rational and emotional at the same time. » Read more
I have been in a polyamorous relationship for several months now, and everything seemed to be going relatively okay until about a month and a half ago. There were small obstacles along the way, but I was under the impression they’d been overcome.
To start from the beginning: I met my partner Tom† when we ended up sitting next to each other on a train and spoke for the whole ride. » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, I find it super helpful. I have a question…you and Justin have a power exchange relationship, right? How does the fact that he owns you affect your other relationships? I’m in a similar situation and am curious how others handle it.
This is a great question! » Read more
It can be a difficult balance to strike in polyamory: How to add new partners to an existing relationship system without upsetting the relationships that are already in place.
A number of common strategies exist. Some relationship systems have extensive permission structures in place. Existing partners are consulted and each is called upon to approve or veto potential new relationships. » Read more