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People Who Believe in “Destiny” Are More Likely to Ghost Romantic Partners

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I’ve featured many articles on ghosting over the course of writing this blog, including this post on the 4 reasons why people ghost.

I’m sure just about everyone has heard of it by now, but just in case you haven’t, ghosting is the act of breaking off a relationship by spontaneously ceasing all contact and communication without warning someone or explaining it to them first.  » Read more

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Forgiveness Doesn’t Have to Look Like Forgiveness to the Person You’re Forgiving

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forgive (verb) – to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake

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As I mentioned in another recent post, people tend to have a very expansive notion of forgiveness. They’ll often act as though forgiving someone means that you forgot what they did or that you allow your relationship with them to be exactly as it was before.  » Read more

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Running Out of Side Quests on the Quest for Primary

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“If you asked most people whether they believed in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could.  » Read more

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Icing, Simmering, or Balancing Multiple Priorities? Another Way Polyamory Requires Trust

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I recently stumbled across a post over at Esther Perel’s blog called “Relationship accountability and the rise of ghosting.” Post author Lindsay addresses consequences of the trend towards ambiguous entanglement and indirect and prolonged breakups and argues for more direct breakups, which they dub “power parting.”

It’s a good article with valid points and includes this chart that helpfully organizes the concepts.  » Read more

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