I’ve been having a fun time writing these essays about being a recovering people pleaser. Here are the first two I wrote. 11/25/2019 – Discovering… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale
As I’ve written many times, I’m a recovering people pleaser. On confident days, I find myself venturing the idea that I am a recovered people pleaser. But… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Didn’t Want to Change
I write quite frequently about being a recovering people pleaser, including one piece I wrote for a client about the 10 biggest lessons I learned… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher
I’m burned out beyond compare. And I’ve reached a point where I have to retool my priorities. To take a second and think. About what matters to me, what doesn’t. What is necessary and what just feels like it’s necessary.
I’ve learned that I count. I’m a person too. I should be on that list.
Have you written anything about how to set boundaries without hurting people? I struggle with worrying that I’m going to hurt people when I set… Read More »How to Set Boundaries Without Hurting People
It’s easy for me put myself in other people’s shoes. Sometimes — I’d say most of the time — this comes in handy. But other times? Not so much. And it can be tough for me to stay fixed in my own perspective when I need to and to advocate for what I want.
Once upon a time, I not only had a
double standard but practiced a triple standard, whereby I had one set of standards for myself, a second for others, and a third for idealized others, a.k.a., the pedestal.
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very… Read More »When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
HI Page, Your article today about perspecticide was a total game changer. I had no idea what dependent personality disorder was and suddenly all of… Read More »What Helped Me Recover From Dependent Personality Disorder
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