What Is Perspecticide? (Abuse)
When I was 19 years old, I wound up in an abusive relationship. Kurt was 32 years old. He’d lived in multiple states. This really… Read More »What Is Perspecticide? (Abuse)
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Though Not Talked About Very Much at All, Sibling Abuse Is VERY Common & VERY Damaging
“You know,” she says, “I relate to a lot of the work you’ve written on childhood abuse.” “I’d say ‘thank you,’” I reply, “but part… Read More »Though Not Talked About Very Much at All, Sibling Abuse Is VERY Common & VERY Damaging
Rough Sex Has No Link With Abuse, Is Initiated About as Often by Women as By Men & Typically Isn’t Very Rough
As I’ve written about many times before, I grew up in a fairly conservative large Catholic family in the Maine woods. We didn’t talk about… Read More »Rough Sex Has No Link With Abuse, Is Initiated About as Often by Women as By Men & Typically Isn’t Very Rough
Does Abuse Require Bad Intent or Can It Be the Result of Simple Incompetence?
I didn’t think of myself as being a survivor of anything — much less abuse — until I was in my 30s. The news was… Read More »Does Abuse Require Bad Intent or Can It Be the Result of Simple Incompetence?
Parents Have an Impact on How Their Children Turn Out, But Maybe Not As Much As Most People Think
They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had. And… Read More »Parents Have an Impact on How Their Children Turn Out, But Maybe Not As Much As Most People Think
If You’re Trying to Spot an Abuser, Look for Someone Who’s Emotionally Immature
In spite of the fact that we haven’t seen each other in years, I still think about my therapist Sue every now and then. On… Read More »If You’re Trying to Spot an Abuser, Look for Someone Who’s Emotionally Immature
Solomon’s Child: “It’s Them or Me,” When They Want You to Cut the Baby in Half
“I just wanted to make sure I reached out and thanked you,” she says. “For what?” I ask. “For talking to me so much about… Read More »Solomon’s Child: “It’s Them or Me,” When They Want You to Cut the Baby in Half
Abuse
I was in a relationship for many years where whenever I asked for any assistance, albeit with finances, chores, or emotional support, I was told… Read More »Abuse
What Is Parentification?
It’s funny. When I talk to other adults who were abused as children, many of us have encountered a similar phenomenon. People who find out… Read More »What Is Parentification?
They Say Sex Is For Marriage But Married Couples Don’t Have Sex
When I was younger, I was always envious of my friends with nerdy mothers. Mothers who took an interest in learning. Read for pleasure and… Read More »They Say Sex Is For Marriage But Married Couples Don’t Have Sex
