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PQ 2.3 – Am I flexible in what I’m looking for?

PQ 2.3 – Am I flexible in what I’m looking for?

Photo by Horia Varlan / CC BY


And no.

Because “flexible” doesn’t even begin to cover it. Because I don’t know that I’m even “looking for” anything. There’s no grand objective, no artifact I’m seeking, no burning need I ache to fill. The grail is not my quest.

I’m not looking.

But I’m radically open, and in my openness, sometimes incredible people and adventures find me.

No goals here, only enjoying the process.

And besides, I feel like that I only just broke free of most of the oppressive social scripts for monogamous relationships — I’m not exactly itching to create some new ones in a new paradigm.

No stencils. No coloring book to fill in. I prefer to draw freeform.


This post is part of a series in which I answer each of the chapter-end questions in More than Two with an essay. For the entire list of questions & answers, please see this indexed list.


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