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Eight ways to win my heart

Eight ways to win my heart

Day One: Ten things you want to say to ten different people right now.
Day Two: Nine things about yourself.
Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.
Day Four: Seven things that cross your mind a lot.
Day Five: Six things you wish you’d never done.
Day Six: Five people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)
Day Seven: Four turn-offs.
Day Eight: Three turn-ons.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life right now, and why.
Day Ten: One confession.


Day Three: Eight ways to win your heart.

1) Give me the benefit of the doubt. If I say or do something that bothers you for some reason, go with the explanation that has me acting out of good intentions but maybe slipping up by mistake, missing some vital piece of information, the victim of poor word choice, etc. I cannot remember the last time I acted out of sheer malice. Basically, I’m human, and as much as I try to be thoughtful, I might not always succeed. You can address it with me in a tactful manner or ask for clarification if something I’ve said or done is really bothering you. Just please, don’t jump to the worst possible conclusion and let yourself spiral out of control without talking to me. I know we all have baggage, but I believe most people really do mean well, myself included.

2) Be intelligent, emotionally and analytically. Have a good memory. Ask interesting questions. Balance skepticism with an open mind, responsibility with whimsy. Retain your sense of wonder.

3) Don’t view me as competition. I’m not trying to win anything. I’m just here to learn and grow and enjoy my life. You be you the best you that you can be, and I’ll be the best me.

4) Let me make mistakes without pointing them out or rubbing it in or being unkind when I do. I was raised by two perfectionists, and I’m desperately trying to become unafraid of fucking up, to worry less about what other people think. When you judge me, you set me back. Unless you are Skyspook or me, it’s not your job to make me into a higher achieving individual, but by all means, feel free to help me with the self-compassion and self-forgiveness bits. That would be terrific.

5) Be interested in people that are different than you. Don’t just surround yourself with “yes” men and seek to confirm what you already believe. Cultivate relationships with “maybe” people.

6) Be brave. Grow. Learn. Stick to your principles while respecting mine.

7) Apology is strength, not weakness. Admit when you’re wrong. Accept my apology.

8) Laugh with wild abandon.

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