9 Things Monogamists Can Learn From Polyamory

3 white candy hearts on a white background speckled with with fuschia and navy blue dots
Image by Coralie Ferreira / CC BY

As polyamory increases in popularity and new evidence emerges that non-monogamy can be a viable and satisfying way to conduct relationships, it’s tempting to pit monogamy versus polyamory in a boxing match. However, both relationship styles have benefits. And the best relationships combine aspects of each to form “the best of both worlds.”  » Read more

Continue Reading

What I Learned from Watching Masterchef Junior

a pot on a stove with steam coming out of it
Image by Moyan Brenn / CC BY

On its face, Masterchef Junior is a lot like other reality TV cooking competitions. Cooks are pitted against each other week to week as they face various wildly improbable challenges. Something like cooking for the client from Hell, armed only with canned mushrooms.

Making pasta from scratch within a ridiculous time limit.

That kind of thing.  » Read more

Continue Reading

The Last Pretzel Bite: The Ins and Outs of Out-Niceing Each Other

close up of several salted soft pretzel bites
Image by LA Foodie / CC BY

“You can have it.”

“No, it’s yours.”

“Just take it already.”

It’s a dance that Skyspook and I do. Each one deferring in turn, the politeness spinning into frustration spinning into rudeness. Our civil selves unravel.

“Alright. Fine,” one of us finally says. The concession to self-serving smooths everything over.  » Read more

Continue Reading

Dating the Same Girls: Poly Rivalry and Good Taste

a black cat swiping at a tabby cat in an act of sibling rivalry
Image by Charles Barilleaux / CC BY

“What would be the hardest thing for you?” I asked Rob.

“You mean, what would really push my buttons?” he replied.

“Yeah.”

He leaned back on the wall behind the bed. “It’s a tough question. I don’t have a lot of jealousy.”

I nodded. It had taken some doing to explain to Rob why his dating my ex-girlfriend might be difficult for me.  » Read more

Continue Reading

Nocebo? No Thanks

a multicolored assortment of pills with a heart-shaped space in the center

“There are very few monsters who warrant the fear we have of them.”
-André Gide

*

Just about everyone has heard of the placebo effect.

Nocebo effect, on the other hand, is far less widely known.

Nocebo effect is the opposite of placebo effect. It’s the belief that we’re being exposed to harmful substances when in fact we are not,  » Read more

Continue Reading