The Middle Path Between Accepting or Rejecting a Difficult Self-Belief Outright Is Testing It

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There are lots of important things I was never told about relationships. Not told by popular depictions of course, which are really a strange way to learn about what relationships are like (although a lot of us do learn primarily this way).

But also not told by my parents. Or anyone else, really.  » Read more

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I’ll Tell You Everything, But You’ll Never See Dirty Laundry

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“I only share when I have no unmet needs that I’m trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.”

Brené Brown

I Don’t Like to Do Chores in Front of Other People

Like any idiom that’s in common use,  » Read more

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4 Things I’ve Found to Be True While Dating Polyamorously Regardless of Current Role

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Whenever possible, I try to offer advice that applies to all sorts of relationships, whether that’s polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between. And when I’m advising polyamorous folks in particular, I do my best to offer advice that will apply to people in a range of different relationship configurations.  Not just help for secondaries,  » Read more

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PQ 12.11 — Do I feel safe opening my heart to someone who has given the power to end our relationship to someone else?

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PQ 12.11 — Do I feel safe opening my heart to someone who has given the power to end our relationship to someone else?

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It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.  » Read more

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