Exploring the Kink Scene Was Healthy for Me — and Boy, Did I Ever Resent That

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Over a decade ago, I plunged onto the kink scene. Once I make up my mind to pursue something, I let go exuberantly, some might say recklessly.

I tend to be rather cautious when I’m considering doing something new. I’m known to research and interview people and to spend quite a while thinking over the issues in question before pursuing it.  » Read more

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Love in the Hate Place, Hate in the Love Place

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“Awww,” Skyspook said. “You loooove it.”

“Sure, I love it… in my hate place.”

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Skyspook often describes his own process of learning how to communicate in relationships (nonromantic and romantic, poly, mono, or otherwise) as going vegan with his emotions.

What he means by this is that he’s as upfront and as authentic about his feelings as possible,  » Read more

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