“What’s a unicorn?” someone new to polyamory and its lexicon will invariably ask.
As folks pop up to answer the question, a few definitions will emerge. The most basic one is that the term “unicorn” is one that is primarily used in polyamorous circles to denote a bisexual woman who will date couples (most commonly heterosexual ones). » Read more
It started over a year ago with a letter from a reader:
Do you have any advice for couples who are about to open up their relationships?
My partner and I are new to poly. We don’t know where to begin. We’d like to find someone to date together. » Read more
My first crush was on Jeff Goldblum and Geena Davis.
Yes. Both of them. Not Jeff or Geena. Jeff and Geena.
Especially when they were married, during the Earth Girls Are Easy days (and yes, The Fly, but that movie gives me and most other sane peeps the heebie jeebies). » Read more
“Ugh,” she says. “More unicorn hunters. I hate unicorn hunters. Don’t they know that no self-respecting bisexual woman is willing to date a couple?”
I bite my tongue yet again, not sure if she remembers that I’ve dated couples. And not just one couple. » Read more
“You’re poly?” he says. “I feel kind of bad for you.”
I raise an eyebrow. “Oh?”
“Everyone knows that polyamory is just a thing that straight dudes made up so that their girlfriends will let them have some extra sex without looking like a creep.”
“What?” » Read more
PQ 2.8 — What happens if I connect with someone in a way that differs from how I want my poly relationship to look? What message does that send to someone who doesn’t fit neatly into my dreams?
“I’ve been thinking,” I tell him. “That maybe when I get into town full time, » Read more
Unicorn hunters get a bum rap in polyamory, despite being very common, especially among poly newbies. A “unicorn” is a polyamorous, bisexual woman who will date both members of a couple. The couple that opens up a previously closed relationship and is looking for this unicorn to form a 3-person relationship, they’re the unicorn hunters. » Read more