Identifying as a Unicorn Allowed Me to Feel Proud of Something I Grew Up Feeling Ashamed About

a shadowy outline of a unicorn bucking up on its hindlegs on a rooftop. Its horn appears to be electrified. In the distance, there is a large tower with electrical activity at its top as well.
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“What’s a unicorn?” someone new to polyamory and its lexicon will invariably ask.

As folks pop up to answer the question, a few definitions will emerge. The most basic one is that the term “unicorn” is one that is primarily used in polyamorous circles to denote a bisexual woman who will date couples (most commonly heterosexual ones).  » Read more

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PQ 2.8 — What happens if I connect with someone in a way that differs from how I want my poly relationship to look? What message does that send to someone who doesn’t fit neatly into my dreams?

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PQ 2.8 — What happens if I connect with someone in a way that differs from how I want my poly relationship to look? What message does that send to someone who doesn’t fit neatly into my dreams?

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“I’ve been thinking,” I tell him. “That maybe when I get into town full time,  » Read more

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Unicorn Ranchers: Don’t Hunt, Create a Sanctuary

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Unicorn hunters get a bum rap in polyamory, despite being very common, especially among poly newbies. A “unicorn” is a polyamorous, bisexual woman who will date both members of a couple. The couple that opens up a previously closed relationship and is looking for this unicorn to form a 3-person relationship, they’re the unicorn hunters.  » Read more

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