What You Get at the End of the Journey to Realness
The best people — the most real people, if you will — are often the ones who believe other people when they point out their flaws.
The best people — the most real people, if you will — are often the ones who believe other people when they point out their flaws.
It’s something I try to keep in mind, particularly when I’m dealing with someone who is being very bitter. Someone who is intent on picking me apart, letting me know my flaws. So eager to find fault that they’ll coax it from even an ambiguous place.
I don’t panic. Even in a life-threatening situation. I don’t panic.
Not then.
No, it’s only after the immediate danger is over that I start to panic. It’s only after I’m safe that I fall apart.
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