Forget Grand Gestures. Relationships Are Lost (or Won) in the Details.

two yellow stick figure sculptures. They are both smiling. The one on the left seems to be giving a white flower petal to the one on the right.
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Practice yourself, for heaven’s sake in little things, and then proceed to greater.

-Epicetus

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We have more possibilities in each moment than we realize.

-Thich Nhat Hanh

Forget Grand Gestures. Relationships Are Lost (or Won) in the Details.

The way that successful romantic relationships are framed is often very deceiving.   » Read more

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I Disliked Them the Moment I Met Them: Transference and Jealousy

black & white photo of 3 cows standing in a row
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Sometimes we meet someone, and for no clear reason, we dislike them instantly. Or we’re incredibly jealous of them. Sometimes it’s both.

We do not come into relationships unbiased. Instead, we enter them as a collection of all of our life experiences. And those we vicariously witness. Through the lives of those close to us.  » Read more

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Deserving

An entry in my Livejournal March 10, 2011:

keeping myself busy
Posted on 2011.03.10 at 16:26
I am having one of those rare days where projects > people.

Curiously I’m feeling intense waves of anger, an emotion I haven’t felt in years – blind, seething molten strands of hatred,  » Read more

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