Risky Sex Is Judged More Harshly Than Objectively More Lethal Non-Sexual Risks

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Which decision is more lethal?:

  • Deciding to drive from Detroit to Chicago
  • Having sex without a condom with a person whose HIV status is unknown

If you’re anything like most people, you will say that the second scenario is the riskier one. That risky sex poses more danger to you than a simple car trip from Detroit to Chicago.  » Read more

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Icing, Simmering, or Balancing Multiple Priorities? Another Way Polyamory Requires Trust

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I recently stumbled across a post over at Esther Perel’s blog called “Relationship accountability and the rise of ghosting.” Post author Lindsay addresses consequences of the trend towards ambiguous entanglement and indirect and prolonged breakups and argues for more direct breakups, which they dub “power parting.”

It’s a good article with valid points and includes this chart that helpfully organizes the concepts.  » Read more

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Stigma, Funding, and Getting Off the Fringe: An Interview with Dr. Terri Conley

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If you’re an ethically nonmonogamous person and haven’t heard of Terri Conley, PhD, you’re missing out. Dr. Conley is “a social psychologist, a feminist, and a sex researcher, but not necessarily in that order.”

And Conley has arguably done more than any other person for establishing a sound scientific basis that polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamy are a viable way to conduct relationships.  » Read more

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9 Things Monogamists Can Learn From Polyamory

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As polyamory increases in popularity and new evidence emerges that non-monogamy can be a viable and satisfying way to conduct relationships, it’s tempting to pit monogamy versus polyamory in a boxing match. However, both relationship styles have benefits. And the best relationships combine aspects of each to form “the best of both worlds.”  » Read more

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