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Now That I’m Sober I Don’t Want to Swing Anymore, But My Husband Does. What Should I Do?

May 25, 2018 No Comments

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Hi Page,

My husband and I have been swinging. About a year ago I got sober. I’m an alcoholic. Ever since then, I’ve had no interest in going back to swinging, but he won’t stop bringing it up. I’m not sure how to approach this. He’s been caught cheating before, » Read more

Polyamory, PQ Series

PQ 2.7 — Am I focusing on an idealized fantasy more than on making organic connections with real people?

November 24, 2016 No Comments

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PQ 2.7 — Am I focusing on an idealized fantasy more than on making organic connections with real people?

Thanksgiving 2010

It was a long drive from Ohio back home to Maine. Shorter than the Greyhound though. Seth and I had taken the bus out to visit Rob and Michelle. We’d spent 2 weeks in Ohio checking out the house where we would live in the spring, » Read more

Body Polytic, Poly Issues, Polyamory

Body Polytic: Why Poly People Don’t Like Being Called Swingers

November 12, 2016 No Comments

One of the most common questions I run into as I talk with polyamorous folks and frequent forums is: Why do poly people get upset when you call them swingers? What’s so bad about being a swinger?

I’ve struggled with this question a lot myself. I used to get really upset when people would call me a swinger. » Read more

D/s, Kink, Mental Health, Poly Issues, Polyamory/Monogamy, Relationships

Enough

July 27, 2016 1 Comment

a rainy scene of a person walking with an umbrella

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It’s a funny thing, never feeling like you’re enough.

“I know I’ll lose you eventually,” I told my husband Skyspook when we first started dating, “but things are wonderful now, so I’m just going to enjoy you while I have you.”

“I’m not going anywhere,” he told me. » Read more