It’s basically a trope at this point. When a child is in trouble, a parent calls them by their full name: First, middle, and last.… Read More »Invoking Someone’s Middle Name Can Have a Psychological Effect
If I want to think of a time when my inner thoughts weren’t self-critical, I have to think back very far. Practically to a point… Read More »Feeling Bad About My Imperfections Did Me More Harm Than My Imperfections Ever Did
I’ve never quite known what to do with birthday cards. Especially ones plastered with flowers. Or Bible verses. Clearly intended for another recipient. One who… Read More »I’ve Never Quite Known What to Do With Birthday Cards
I’m not sure exactly where I heard it first, but it was all the rage during the first year or two after I joined FetLife:… Read More »What Does It Mean to Be a Credit to Your Kink?
My feelings on 12-step programs are complicated. While some people have gained a ton of personal benefit from them, my own experiences in 12-step programs… Read More »You’re Only as Sick As Your Secrets
“Ugh, what is wrong with me? I’m so freaking bad at poly,” she says. “Why do you say that?” I say. “I’m the poly vet… Read More »Poly Shame Spiral: Swimming Through Water and Yelling at Ourselves for Getting Wet
“You’re into that?” I say. “That’s pretty neat.” “Really?” she replies, her eyes wide. “Yeah, it’s kind of a cool fetish.” “Huh,” she says. “What?”… Read More »I Will Help You Shed Your Shame
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness. –Brené Brown * I was on fire again.… Read More »Please Be Jealous
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