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I’m not sure exactly where I heard it first, but it was all the rage during the first year or two after I joined FetLife: “Be a credit to your kink.”
Practically everyone was writing about it back then, in some way, shape, or form.
The basic premise of this catchphrase was this: If you’re doing something considered beyond the sociosexual pale, » Read more
My feelings on 12-step programs are complicated. While some people have gained a ton of personal benefit from them, my own experiences in 12-step programs were considerably more checkered and regrettable. That, coupled with having read extensive research that counters a lot of the core claims of those programs, has generally soured me on them. » Read more
“Ugh, what is wrong with me? I’m so freaking bad at poly,” she says.
“Why do you say that?” I say.
“I’m the poly vet here. I should know what I’m doing,” she says.
“And you don’t?”
“I don’t. I feel like I did way back in the beginning, » Read more
“You’re into that?” I say. “That’s pretty neat.”
“Really?” she replies, her eyes wide.
“Yeah, it’s kind of a cool fetish.”
“Huh,” she says.
“What?”
“I’ve just never had anybody react that way before. When I told them that I was into that,” she says. » Read more
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.
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I was on fire again. Staring at Seth, watching him sleep.
I wished I could sleep, too.
No chance of that. » Read more
