PQ 20.3 — How do I feel about me or a partner having sex with someone who has a common STI such as HSV? What do I consider “safe sex” under such circumstances?
This is exactly the point at which most safer sex talks fall apart, especially if you’re talking to someone who hasn’t had these kinds of discussions before. » Read more
PQ 20.1 — Do I know my current STI status and that of all my partners?
Yes! And I know the status of my metamours.
I also know which relationships use protection and which don’t. And a reasonable snapshot of what new sexual contact might come over the horizon. » Read more
PQ 19.4 — How do I feel about having unbarriered sex with someone who is having unbarriered sex with someone else?
Wow, Chapter 19 is a very nosy chapter. But that’s okay. I’m the one who decided to answer all of these questions in public with essays. One hundred percent me. » Read more
I’ve been poly for about 6 months. I recently met a new partner. He has another partner (and so do I). He asked me to get testing for STIs before we sleep together. I was so offended! Why would he do that? A big part of poly for me has been accepting myself as a sexual being. » Read more
So You Want to Open Your Relationship, What Next?
I had read all about New Relationship Energy (NRE) before diving in to polyamory. Those new, shiny feelings that happen when you first start dating someone. When your partner feels NRE for someone new, it can be deeply terrifying. Especially when you’re new to polyamory and in a relationship that was previously monogamous and not yet Poly Road Tested. » Read more
“But aren’t you worried about diseases?”
It’s a very frequent question asked of poly people – and a very natural one. I know it’s the first one I asked when polyamory was presented to me as a relationship option.
Your standard-issue Poly Honor Student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course we are, » Read more