Threesomes, You’re Doing Them Wrong

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On those days when I’m struggling with my latest challenge as a poly person, I can sure count on monogamous people to remind me how different things are out here in Poly.Land. This is especially true when it comes to threesomes and happened with Reddit a little while ago.

My latest reminder was reading Jezebel’s “Amber Rose Had Her First Threesome and Totally Hated It.”  » Read more

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Baggage Claim

“I said love. Why does that almost always translate to something sexual for you?”

It’s just an SMS on a 2-inch screen. It shouldn’t be filling my eyes with tears, doubling me over in pain, making my world spin.

I text Skyspook a quick apology for reading sexual undercurrents into the message he’d sent earlier.  » Read more

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Wired Differently

If I try to be monogamous with a vanilla man with low libido ever again, someone please inform me of the error of my ways.

I recently had a nice girly evening with the lovely Sika in which we commiserated about the plight of the kinky, libidinous female.

We’re raised culturally to believe that men are hardwired to constantly want sex day and night,  » Read more

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Mmmm… Delicious, Delicious Whore Pills

Stop worrying about how much sex young women are having. Seriously.

When we judge young women predominantly based on their sexual activity or inactivity as virtuous or loose, responsible or irresponsible, ethical or unethical, we shift focus away from the rest of the values and behaviors we should be teaching them: Self-determination, self-compassion,  » Read more

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Cusp

I rode the wave for what seemed like forever the other night. We were working in concert, floating me at the cusp – it was years or maybe an instant, come or die, come or die, but please, please don’t stop.

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When I first got on Lexapro, it was an incredible life changing moment.  » Read more

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