It’s Possible to Force Yourself To Be Something You’re Not (Especially Short Term), But It’s Painful

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As I write this post, my house is finally on the market. When the realtor stepped back into the house, he was bowled over by all the renovations that we made since the last time he visited.

I wasn’t sure what to expect going into that meeting with him. Didn’t know if he’d recommend more improvements.  » Read more

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When “Problematic” Becomes Problematic: Identity Assumptions, Dissonance, and Confessions

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Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:

Finding Something Problematic Tells Me More About You

As someone who does the delicate dance between the worlds of social justice and diversity and inclusion,  » Read more

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The Curse of Self-Protection: “Don’t Make That Face, It’s Gonna Freeze That Way.”

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It’s not easy being a kid. Kids have all the emotions that adults have, but they’re yet to figure out coping skills. Especially the little ones.

They act on their emotions rather than dealing with them. Excessive stress leads to behavioral problems.

However, in some ways, I admire their lack of emotional regulation.  » Read more

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PQ 6.5 — Do I look for hidden meanings in other people’s words? Do I bury my real meaning?

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PQ 6.5 — Do I look for hidden meanings in other people’s words? Do I bury my real meaning?

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She is the most beautiful woman in the world. We’re whizzing down the road. A rural route. Trees rush by. She’s in the driver’s seat, like always. Her long black hair glints in the sun.  » Read more

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PQ 5.10 — How do I evaluate my choices when the effects of my actions are impossible to predict?

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PQ 5.10 — How do I evaluate my choices when the effects of my actions are impossible to predict?

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I hate to break it to you, but those times when the effects of your actions are impossible to predict?

That’s nearly 100% of the time. Especially when it comes to interpersonal interactions.  » Read more

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