Dishonesty Can Actually Damage Your Ability to Read People

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It’s well known that dishonesty can be damaging to interpersonal relationships. When we find out someone has lied to us, it can be very difficult to trust them again.

But how about the other side of things? When someone has lied to us, even if no one discovers that they have lied, does the act carry consequences for them as well?  » Read more

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Web of the Magi: Cross-Purposes in Polyamorous Relationship Systems

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6:30 am. The alarm shrieks.

I’ve been half-dozing since 6 am when I woke with a cracked throat and a full bladder. All of the water in my body diverted to the wrong places. But not wanting to stir and wake Skyspook up. Instead, I’ve been willing the bladder heaviness to sink down through the lower half of my body until my toes felt heavy instead.  » Read more

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The Crumple Zone: Partners Who Bear the Impact

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crumple zone: noun

a section of an automobile body designed to absorb the force of an impact in order to protect the passengers (Merriam-Webster)

a part of a motor vehicle, especially the extreme front end and rear, designed to crumple easily in a crash and absorb the main force of an impact (Google)

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I’ve written a few times about polyamory and emotional labor:

I’m yet to find a polyamorous relationship system that extends beyond a few folks that hasn’t occasionally run into these patterns of uneven one-sided emotional labor.  » Read more

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Polyamory and Reformed Cheaters: Fessing Up is Hard to Do

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Polyamory is Harder for Reformed Cheaters

“Polyamory? That’s something that’s for reformed cheaters, right?”

And I want to say no when people say that, but it’s a great deal more complicated than that.

While there are plenty of people who become polyamorous without ever being physically unfaithful as monogamous people, there are others who did.  » Read more

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