I can remember being a little girl and dreaming about what it would be like to have romantic relationships.
I was that kind of little girl. I longed to have someone with me at all times, who was deeply interested in me, what I had to say, what was going on in my life and in my heart (and I, » Read more
I don’t know why they have to make love stories so huge. So colorful. So improbable.
Why they have to pipe in dramatic music. Force a tug of war. Turn one person into the conquest and the other into a conqueror.
I don’t want a lover who is going to burn me to the ground on the way to winning my heart. » Read more
After spending two months apart from my domestic partner, while he started a new job cross country and I prepped our house for sale, I worried that things would be weird when I got here.
At first, when the fears were large enough to paralyze me, I said nothing. I didn’t dare speak that worry aloud. » Read more
I recently published a piece called “There *Are* Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know.” That article attracted a lot of attention and resulted in many comments and private messages. For the most part, its reception was very positive. I heard from a bunch of folks who were happy to see some ace representation, » Read more
PQ 16.1 — When my partners have competing desires, how well do I express what I need? Do I make sure my own desires aren’t lost in the shuffle?
There’s a certain kind of story I grew up believing: No sacrifice was too great for love. In fact, my own personal picture of love required a large sacrifice. » Read more
“Promiscuous” implies that I’m not choosy. In fact I’m very choosy. I just happen to have had a lot of choices.
How Do You Know If a Slut Loves You?
It is the giddy catch of breath. Their quick smile.
The way they look at you. Beyond pensive. » Read more
PQ 4.1 — Why do I have romantic relationships? What do I get out of them?
“Romance is stupid,” Seth said. “Everyone knows it’s just something Hallmark made up to sell more cards.”
“Really?” I said. It explained a lot but didn’t feel good to hear him say. » Read more
I am so in love.
There are days now that are so wonderful, so utterly filled with hope and beautiful things that a younger version of myself navigating unjust obstacles and experiencing constant disappointment would never believe it possible. And yet, here I am, 20 years ahead in the same life writing this, » Read more
Skyspook: If you don’t end up getting a career in the field, one day you’ll probably look back and say that you wasted time studying psychology and conducting research, but then I’ll prove you wrong by showing you some of the writing you’ve been doing about it.
Page: Aha! So that’s why you read my blog. » Read more