I Wasn’t Always Polyamorous. Dating Was Like a Game of Musical Chairs.

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I often feel very alien when I find myself amongst a a pack of other polyamorous educators. It’s very common to hear a familiar story from them: They’ve always been polyamorous. Monogamy never seemed quite right to them. They went through life framing relationships in a different way than other people. Conducting themselves polyamorously before they knew the word.  » Read more

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Polyamory Toolbox: Wearing the Friend Hat

2 plastic toy people who appears to be friends. Both are wearing hats and scarves. They are positioned so that they seem to be in mid-conversation with one another.
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Part of what can feel daunting when trying to navigate polyamorous relationships is how few cultural models we have for a lot of what happens.

How are we supposed to act when we’re sharing a romantic partner with others? And how should we interact with our metamours (i.e., our partner’s other partners)?

Popular depictions of love triangles are profoundly unhelpful.  » Read more

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PQ 7.4 — Do I perceive criticism in my partner’s statements even if they aren’t directly critical?

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PQ 7.4 — Do I perceive criticism in my partner’s statements even if they aren’t directly critical?

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There’s always something to work on in a relationship. Because it doesn’t matter how perfectly the blinding light of New Relationship Energy washes over the creases and cracks like a giant flashbulb.

Eventually,  » Read more

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