Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.
Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).
Here’s what they wrote for us today:
Sometimes Challenging the Relationship Escalator Means Starting at the Tenth Floor
We had been talking on and off for months but it was about to come to a head. » Read more
Having gone through plenty of breakups myself, I can tell you firsthand that they can be a real bummer. Whether you were dumped or the one who initiated it. And even when it’s mutual.
When it’s over, it can be easy to question yourself. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people wonder post-breakup: Was I really in love? » Read more
Thank you for your blog. It’s really awesome.
I was wondering if you have written any pieces about solo polyamory and what your opinion is on it?
You know, I have written about solo polyamory here but only very little. » Read more
If Labels Are for Organization, Then I Guess I’m a Bit of a Mess
“So what are you looking for? Something casual? Dating? A relationship? Something romantic?” she asks me.
And it takes me a long time to formulate an answer to the question. Not because I’m not interested. And not because I don’t care about her. » Read more
I’ve long been a fan of Amy Gahran’s work. Under her pen name Aggie Sez, Gahran founded the blog solopoly.net, where she has been writing for many years about the unique challenges faced by those who tackle “life, relationships, and dating as a free agent.”
One post in particular, “Riding the Relationship Escalator, » Read more
“I’m sorry, but could you hang out just a sec?” I say to him. “I have to go cross-post today’s piece.”
“That’s right, it’s after noon,” he says. “What did you put out for an article today?”
“Oh, it’s a post on amatonormativity. Being single. The hidden cost of art,” » Read more
“If you asked most people whether they believed in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could. » Read more
Polyamorous Controversy Over “Benefits”
As readers responded to our recent post 7 Common Myths About Being Polyamorous on social media, one debunked myth quickly emerged as the most controversial:
4. If you have flings, you’re not polyamorous.
Some other folks may feel differently about this, but for me polyamory is about radical openness to whatever happens to develop. » Read more
“Polyamory?” I’m sometimes asked. “Isn’t that a lot of hard work?”
And the poly honor student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course it is! But it’s well worth the effort.”
But I’m not much of an honor student. And the truth is? The way I’ve learned to approach polyamory, » Read more
Sika Cancels Sexile
I glance at my phone. A text from my metamour Sika.
I was just texting Skyspook trying to figure out scheduling for this weekend, and apparently both you and I are trying not to be intrusive. I just wanted to let you know that 1. You are such an awesome metamour, » Read more