Psychology Isn’t Just for Understanding Illness

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It’s curious. Many times when I disclose to someone that my background is in psychology, they immediately get defensive.

I can visibly see the difference in someone’s posture. They become guarded, worried that I’m going to analyze them.

That, in essence, I’m scanning them for defects. A bit like one of those space-age devices designed to examine the newly introduced alien artifact for signs of potential disease.  » Read more

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The Supernormal Stimulus: Figuring Out What Matters Most to Your Partner & Doing It

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In the 90s, I lived with a wide variety of people. Sometimes I stayed with relatives, but other times I crashed at friends’ houses, friends who were still living with their parents, since their teenaged home lives were more conventional than my own.

At one house I crashed with college professors who had the world’s smallest,  » Read more

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No Monsters, No Saints: Abusers Can Be Kind, the Abused Can Be Abusive

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I spent a couple of years seriously studying medical terminology, preparing to work as a medical transcriptionist. Anatomy & Physiology. Pharmacology. A multi-semester course on Disease Processes.

I noticed quickly that some of the students were troubled about what we were learning about the myriad ways that the human body can break down.  » Read more

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The Main Quest

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Staying positive is my major goal — if I were a video game protagonist that would be the main quest that advances the plot. However, I have noticed the maximum depth of existential angst of which I am capable steadily increases year by year. On the same hand, so does joy. It’s curious, this parameter growth.  » Read more

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On the Lam

I’ve known more than a couple folks in my day who prided themselves on being supremely rational, in control, unemotional. They were stoics. They thought they were tough.

All went well until they hit a snag, encountered a conflict. And then it became painfully obvious that they were full of it.

This is because avoiding emotions can cause them to come out sideways later.  » Read more

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