“You know what I’m looking forward to the most about buying a house?” she says. “What’s that?” “Personal space. Privacy,” she says. “And lots of… Read More »Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind
PQ 16.6 – What boundaries do I set for myself in relation to each of my partners? * For anyone looking for a basic introduction… Read More »PQ 16.6 – What boundaries do I set for myself in relation to each of my partners?
Fall 2010 One night, my boyfriend Rob called me on the phone after his wife Michelle left for the library. It was a low-key conversation.… Read More »Is It More Ethical to Hide a Metamour’s Insecurity From Your Partner? Or More Ethical to Tell Them?
“When someone is crying, of course, the noble thing to do is to comfort them. But if someone is trying to hide their tears, it… Read More »They Want to Tell Me in Person, But I’d Rather Get Bad News Over Text
“There are certain children who are told they are too sensitive, and there are certain adults who believe sensitivity is a problem that can be… Read More »I Hate That My Face Is So Emotionally Reactive
PQ 9.10 — Do I feel I have no expectation of privacy in my other relationships? * I’ve written a bit about the importance of… Read More »PQ 9.10 — Do I feel I have no expectation of privacy in my other relationships?
Buttinski Sign Buttinski Sign. It is my Achilles heel. The thing that I find hardest about polyamory. And it’s never what I’m asked about when… Read More »Buttinski, #1 Metamour, or Compervert? Walking that Fine Line
PQ 3.2 — Have I sought input from everyone affected? Have I obtained their consent where my decision overlaps their personal boundaries? (Chapter 3 questions are… Read More »PQ 3.2 — Polyamory and Boundaries, First Degree, Second Degree, and Beyond
It’s difficult to know how much to share about what goes on (sexually and otherwise) with one of your partners with another. It’s like titrating… Read More »Truth Drip: Titrating How Much We Share and When