“I think Rob is more in love with the idea of having a girlfriend than actually in love with me,” I said. I could hear Skyspook’s… Read More »Emotional Whack-a-Mole: You Can’t Hide from Disappointment
One of the most common questions I run into as I talk with polyamorous folks and frequent forums is: Why do poly people get upset… Read More »Body Polytic: Why Poly People Don’t Like Being Called Swingers
“So I know it might sound a little weird,” she said. “But I’m basically mono/poly right now. I mean, I’m not. I could totally see… Read More »Underdater, Rejoice: Enjoy that Free Bandwidth!
“So I’m gonna warn you up front,” I said. “I’m the queen of secret makeouts.” “The Secret Makeouts, eh?” he said. “Hawt. Guess I missed… Read More »Secret Makeouts: In Defense of Spontaneity
Mono/poly relationships, i.e., a relationship between a partner who is monogamous and one who is polyamorous, are notoriously difficult. Traditional poly blogger wisdom points the… Read More »Toxic Monogamy, Why Mono/Poly (and Poly) is Hard
They tell you never to go the grocery store hungry. You’ll careen the aisles, salivating like a ravenous beast, sweeping entire shelves of food into… Read More »Shopping on a Full Stomach: Desperation & Choices
“I’m a people pleaser,” they say. “I can’t help myself. When I see someone wants something, I have to give it to them. I need… Read More »People Pleasing & Poly: Resentment and Broken Promises
When you are traversing the wilds of Poly Land, you’ll surely encounter many loving folks. However, not everyone you meet will show their love in… Read More »Poly Love Languages: A Poly Land Field Guide