PQ 3.2 — Polyamory and Boundaries, First Degree, Second Degree, and Beyond

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PQ 3.2 — Have I sought input from everyone affected? Have I obtained their consent where my decision overlaps their personal boundaries? (Chapter 3 questions are all asked in the context of ones to ask to evaluate whether your choices are ethical.)

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This is truly one of the trickiest parts of polyamory —  » Read more

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PQ 3.1 — Have I disclosed all relevant information to everyone affected by my decision?

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PQ 3.1 — Have I disclosed all relevant information to everyone affected by my decision? (Chapter 3 questions are all asked in the context of ones to ask to evaluate whether your choices are ethical.)

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“You can’t just add on another relationship without consulting anybody. That’s not how poly fucking works!”  » Read more

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PQ 2.2 — What configurations am I open to? Am I looking for a particular configuration because I’m afraid that others might be more scary or more threatening?

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I am open to whatever configuration makes the most sense logistically and given the personalities of all involved.

It seems like folly to decide what structure I’m going to build without first having the component parts in hand.

Besides, every time I have tried to come up with some kind of tentative plan,  » Read more

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PQ 2.1 — What are my needs in relationships? Are they attached to specific people? That is, do I need these things generally, or do I need them just from certain people?

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What are my needs in relationships? Are they attached to specific people? That is, do I need these things generally, or do I need them just from certain people?

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Casual relationships are simple. For casual relationships, I need things to be entertaining and fun, and as long there’s physical chemistry,  » Read more

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