Hey folks. It’s official. Three years ago today, I began posting daily here at this site. And at that same time I made a private commitment to myself and a public commitment to anyone watching at the time that no matter what, I would publish a new article here every single day.
Three years in, » Read more
If someone does a favor for you, you like them more, right?
But what about the person doing the favor for you? One would expect that you risk making that person feel put out, surely. Inconvenienced. And they might hold having done that favor against you.
But curiously, researchers have found that they don’t. » Read more
The vast majority of people don’t worry much at all about getting into a car. Like a lot of other people, I myself have been known to do it multiple times in the same day. I’ve headed out to work, to the store, to home, and then later left go on a date before driving back home after. » Read more
Two years ago today, I converted this site over to a daily publishing schedule. And I made a public commitment to myself — and to anyone watching at the time — that no matter what, I would publish a new article here every. Single. Day.
For two years, I’ve kept that promise. » Read more
PQ 23.3 — Do my expectations allow space for metamours who might have different expectations?
“When it comes to polyamory, sometimes I think I’m the world’s biggest Monday morning quarterback,” she says.
I laugh involuntarily. “I’m not really into football,” I warn her.
“Well, you live in Cleveland, » Read more
Life is not a PG feel-good movie. Real life often ends badly. Literature tries to document this reality, while showing us it is still possible for us to endure nobly.
“I read your blog for a while before I read Poly Land, » Read more
On September 1, 2016, a year ago today, I converted this site over to a daily blog. And I resolved to myself that I would begin to post here every day. No matter what. No excuses.
It’s a commitment I’ve taken very seriously. And one that hasn’t always been easy to keep. » Read more
A few days ago, I launched my first book, Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory, a memoir that shares (maybe overshares) what I went through when I was newly polyamorous. Those first few years when I didn’t know what I was doing and neither did anyone around me. » Read more
I’ve been reading Poly Land for a while but wanted to reach out to thank you for your advice – and the way you share your experiences and draw from them.
I heard you’re coming out with a book soon. I’m so excited. » Read more
PQ 5.3 — What does “commitment” mean to me, and why? (see also 1.6)
Today’s question is strikingly similiar to PQ 1.6 (How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?). » Read more