A Mindset Called “Wise Reasoning” Can Lead to More Productive Relationship Conflicts

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I’ve long been an advocate for the importance of being able to take other people’s perspectives — in general but specifically when it comes to close relationships. The worst conflicts I’ve had have been whenever one or both of us became utterly intransigent. Fixed in our views. And wouldn’t entertain that the other person was inhabiting a different position,  » Read more

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Rich People Might Actually Be Clueless When It Comes to Others

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Boy, oh boy, peer-reviewed psychological research is getting lit lately. There is a lot of study in the area of how being wealthy can affect the way that you treat other people.

For example, a former installment of this same series covered a study which demonstrated that being rich in money can also mean being poor in both empathy and scruples.  » Read more

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PQ 10.7 — Are my rules equally binding on everyone they affect, or do they create a double standard?

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PQ 10.7 — Are my rules equally binding on everyone they affect, or do they create a double standard?

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While everyone is going to have different needs, when creating a relationship agreement, it’s important not to place restrictions on others that you wouldn’t want placed on yourself.  » Read more

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