The Ruthful Pragmatist: You Can Tell A Lot About a Person From the Trade-Offs They Choose

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Most people know the word “ruthless.” It’s fairly commonly used. It means “having or showing no pity for others.”

And “pragmatic” means “practical.”

So a ruthless pragmatist is a person who is so practical that they go for what they want, screw the cost. They care about results before everything else,  » Read more

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A Perfectionist Circle: How I Became Attracted to Work Ethic

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I don’t know how it happened, but I seem to have become someone that is attracted primarily to ambition. Passion. Work ethic.

And completely turned off by laziness.

The Lazy One

I’m the child of two perfectionists. No matter what I did, it was never good enough. My parents were very quick to point out my mistakes and very quiet about my successes.  » Read more

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The Conscientious Polyamorist

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A study came out a while back correlating personality traits with polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. I read it with great interest but didn’t write about it for a long time.

Frankly, I was rather feelsy about the results:

  1. Having an openness to experience made it more likely that someone would have positive attitudes towards consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and be willing to engage in those kinds of relationships
  2. People high in conscientiousness were markedly less likely to have consensually non-monogamous relationships and in general held more negative attitudes toward them

As the study authors wrote about the second point:

“[I]ndividuals who tend to be very organized,  » Read more

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What’s Your Conflict Style? 5 Approaches to Conflict Resolution

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“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.”

-Max Lucado

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As I wrote in a previous post, there are worse things than conflict, including perpetually running away from one you need to address. One commenter on that piece made a great observation: “Honesty and conflict resolution are so much easier in theory than in practice.”  » Read more

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