people pleasing

The Unappreciated, Accidental Romantic Upside of Being Solely a “Freezer” and a “Fawner”

I recently wrote an essay called “It Was Terrifying the First Time I Dated Someone Who Was Really Good to Me.” Here’s an excerpt: I… Read More »The Unappreciated, Accidental Romantic Upside of Being Solely a “Freezer” and a “Fawner”

I’ve been having a fun time writing these essays about being a recovering people pleaser. Here are the first two I wrote. 11/25/2019 – Discovering… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale

As I’ve written many times, I’m a recovering people pleaser. On confident days, I find myself venturing the idea that I am a recovered people pleaser. But… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Didn’t Want to Change

I write quite frequently about being a recovering people pleaser, including one piece I wrote for a client about the 10 biggest lessons I learned… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher

Many long-time readers of the blog know that I identify as a recovering people pleaser. It’s been a long road to recovery, bolstered by an… Read More »Fight, Flight, Freeze… Fawn?: Responding to Danger by Becoming a People Pleaser

I’ve been on a cleaning frenzy lately. I recently implemented a new chore list which guides me through most of the motions. Makes keeping things… Read More »Things Often Feel Broken on Their Way to Being Fixed

I had an ex who once told me, “The only thing that’s wrong with you is that you think there’s something wrong with you. You… Read More »It’s Okay to Care What Other People Think of You — But Be Specific

“I’m always doing everything for everyone else,” she says. “And where does it get me?” I’m taken aback. I’m not sure where this is coming… Read More »Kindness Misers: “I’m Always Doing Everything for Everyone Else”

PQ 9.13 — Am I afraid to express my boundaries? Do I feel they won’t be respected? * Am I Afraid to Express My Boundaries?… Read More »PQ 9.13 — Am I afraid to express my boundaries? Do I feel they won’t be respected?