There’s no getting around it. One of the most sabotaging things you can do is not set boundaries with other people. It can be extremely damaging to your life and happiness if you regularly say yes to other people when you really want to say no.
I have suffered from people pleasing my whole life, and am inclined to change too much for other people, especially if I like them. Even if it makes me miserable. It’s easy in such a situation to be suspicious of your own growth.
I’ve learned that I count. I’m a person too. I should be on that list.
I used to be a person who responded to everyone who contacted me. Day or night. Regardless of who they were, if I even liked them, how much it inconvenienced me.
While it feels good when something is relatable, is it always good? Or are there times when memes simply give us the permission not to do the work to change and grow?
It’s easy for me put myself in other people’s shoes. Sometimes — I’d say most of the time — this comes in handy. But other times? Not so much. And it can be tough for me to stay fixed in my own perspective when I need to and to advocate for what I want.
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