Is It Always Good That Something Is Relatable?
While it feels good when something is relatable, is it always good? Or are there times when memes simply give us the permission not to do the work to change and grow?
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When Perspective-Taking Is Too Easy: The Challenge of Staying in Your Own Shoes
It’s easy for me put myself in other people’s shoes. Sometimes — I’d say most of the time — this comes in handy. But other times? Not so much. And it can be tough for me to stay fixed in my own perspective when I need to and to advocate for what I want.
When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very… Read More »When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
Growing Up Trying to Be as Little Hassle as Possible
I was a really happy-go-lucky kid. Naturally. But as I grew older, I learned to lean more into this feeling. I took on a willingness… Read More »Growing Up Trying to Be as Little Hassle as Possible
I’ve Always Been a Sucker for a Comeback & It Almost Destroyed Me
There’s a meme that’s been flying around for some time that talks about how kids who were mistreated will learn to love unwanted things. I… Read More »I’ve Always Been a Sucker for a Comeback & It Almost Destroyed Me
If You’re Asking Yourself If You’re Being a Doormat, Then the Answer Is Yes
The other day I got a question from a reader in response to my essay on the importance of being around gracious people. This is true… Read More »If You’re Asking Yourself If You’re Being a Doormat, Then the Answer Is Yes
The Unappreciated, Accidental Romantic Upside of Being Solely a “Freezer” and a “Fawner”
I recently wrote an essay called “It Was Terrifying the First Time I Dated Someone Who Was Really Good to Me.” Here’s an excerpt: I… Read More »The Unappreciated, Accidental Romantic Upside of Being Solely a “Freezer” and a “Fawner”
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale
I’ve been having a fun time writing these essays about being a recovering people pleaser. Here are the first two I wrote. 11/25/2019 – Discovering… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Still Do More Than My Fair Share, Just on a Smaller Scale
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Didn’t Want to Change
As I’ve written many times, I’m a recovering people pleaser. On confident days, I find myself venturing the idea that I am a recovered people pleaser. But… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: I Didn’t Want to Change
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher
I write quite frequently about being a recovering people pleaser, including one piece I wrote for a client about the 10 biggest lessons I learned… Read More »Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser: Discovering Places Between Pushover and Pusher
