I’ve Always Had the Least Patience for My Own Suffering
My biggest problem isn’t that other people aren’t judging my for my timeline — I am.
My biggest problem isn’t that other people aren’t judging my for my timeline — I am.
I can be awfully patient when someone else has issues — so long as they own them, so long as they’re actively working on them, so long as they communicate and it’s clear that they respect me and care that their issues are affecting me.
“I’m sorry,” I say. “I’m a mess. The last few years have been really hard.”
I fear commitment. I do. And not because I can’t commit. I certainly can. It’s because I take it seriously.
It’s something I try to keep in mind, particularly when I’m dealing with someone who is being very bitter. Someone who is intent on picking me apart, letting me know my flaws. So eager to find fault that they’ll coax it from even an ambiguous place.
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