Locus of Control: Who’s Driving Your Life?
When I first started dating, I was pretty clueless about what kind of person I should be seeking out. I was frankly pretty slapdash with… Read More »Locus of Control: Who’s Driving Your Life?
partner selection
Ask Page: How Did You Find Such a Good Dominant?
Hi Page, I’ve been reading your blog for about a year now. It’s my favorite one. Thank you for writing every day, for being there.… Read More »Ask Page: How Did You Find Such a Good Dominant?
I’m Waaaaay Pickier About Partner Selection Now That I’m Polyamorous
As I’ve said many times in the past, I don’t do a lot of online dating. I tend to be unconventional in the way I… Read More »I’m Waaaaay Pickier About Partner Selection Now That I’m Polyamorous
What People Get Wrong When They Talk About Partner Selection
“How are you doing?” I ask her. “I’m okay,” she says. And after a pause, she adds, “Considering.” I nod. “Breakups are never easy,” I… Read More »What People Get Wrong When They Talk About Partner Selection
The Hardest Part of Opening an Existing Relationship: You Can’t Reroll Your Partner’s Stats (or Your Own)
The most difficult part of opening up a relationship is that you’re changing its terms. However, it isn’t just the adjustment stress that can accompany… Read More »The Hardest Part of Opening an Existing Relationship: You Can’t Reroll Your Partner’s Stats (or Your Own)
PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?
PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the… Read More »PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?
“My Partner is a Reflection of Me”: Partner Choice as Self-Referendum
“My partner is a reflection of me,” she said. “Oh?” “What he does,” she continued. “Who he chooses to spend time with.” “And your metamour?”… Read More »“My Partner is a Reflection of Me”: Partner Choice as Self-Referendum
PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship?
PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship? * I used to be a big checklist person when it came to… Read More »PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship?
No One Wants to Be a Life Raft: Stability Can Be Pretty Damn Attractive
One of the most important things they tell you when you’re getting lifeguard training? Don’t get near a drowning person. Throw the life saver to… Read More »No One Wants to Be a Life Raft: Stability Can Be Pretty Damn Attractive
The New Party Guest: Trusting Our Partner’s Partner Selection
One of the best ways to be successful in polyamory? Surround yourself with people whose judgement you trust. As I mentioned in a previous post on… Read More »The New Party Guest: Trusting Our Partner’s Partner Selection
