Locus of Control: Who’s Driving Your Life?
When I first started dating, I was pretty clueless about what kind of person I should be seeking out. I was frankly pretty slapdash with… Read More »Locus of Control: Who’s Driving Your Life?
When I first started dating, I was pretty clueless about what kind of person I should be seeking out. I was frankly pretty slapdash with… Read More »Locus of Control: Who’s Driving Your Life?
Hi Page, I’ve been reading your blog for about a year now. It’s my favorite one. Thank you for writing every day, for being there.… Read More »Ask Page: How Did You Find Such a Good Dominant?
As I’ve said many times in the past, I don’t do a lot of online dating. I tend to be unconventional in the way I… Read More »I’m Waaaaay Pickier About Partner Selection Now That I’m Polyamorous
“How are you doing?” I ask her. “I’m okay,” she says. And after a pause, she adds, “Considering.” I nod. “Breakups are never easy,” I… Read More »What People Get Wrong When They Talk About Partner Selection
The most difficult part of opening up a relationship is that you’re changing its terms. However, it isn’t just the adjustment stress that can accompany… Read More »The Hardest Part of Opening an Existing Relationship: You Can’t Reroll Your Partner’s Stats (or Your Own)
PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the… Read More »PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?
“My partner is a reflection of me,” she said. “Oh?” “What he does,” she continued. “Who he chooses to spend time with.” “And your metamour?”… Read More »“My Partner is a Reflection of Me”: Partner Choice as Self-Referendum
PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship? * I used to be a big checklist person when it came to… Read More »PQ 4.2 — What do I consider essential, indispensable elements of a relationship?
One of the most important things they tell you when you’re getting lifeguard training? Don’t get near a drowning person. Throw the life saver to… Read More »No One Wants to Be a Life Raft: Stability Can Be Pretty Damn Attractive
One of the best ways to be successful in polyamory? Surround yourself with people whose judgement you trust. As I mentioned in a previous post on… Read More »The New Party Guest: Trusting Our Partner’s Partner Selection