If It Isn’t an Official Relationship, Is It Automatically Friends with Benefits?

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I still think fondly of Jay.

I met Jay at a student pagan gathering. When I’d called the office asking if atheists were welcome (how I identified at the time), I was assured that they were completely interfaith. Even practitioners of Abrahamic religions were encouraged to attend.

But I noted as soon as I arrived that I was surrounded by Wiccans.  » Read more

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PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

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PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

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Before I begin, a quick caveat: I get what this question is driving at, but saying someone “makes” us feel a certain way can have a downside.

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A lot of people are scared of polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy because they worry their partner will compare them to others.  » Read more

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PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values?

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PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values [the values that are most important in myself and others]?

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For the most part, I do a pretty okay job making choices that are consistent with my values. This is a good thing as it causes me a fair bit of distress whenever I depart from my values.  » Read more

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