Being Constantly Told to Shut Up When You’re a Kid Sticks With You

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“You got your creativity from me,” my mother says. “Your father was good at many things, but he didn’t have a creative bone in his body.”

My father passed away in April. He was an inventor, a construction engineer. A brilliant blue collar man. He wasn’t a very talkative person — unless you got him going about something he was passionate about —  » Read more

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For Better or Worse, You Don’t Get to Control How Other People See You

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I’m sitting in a pew, attending mass at the church I attended growing up.

It’s been 7 years since I went to a service here, on another visit to my hometown, but surprisingly little has changed since then.

Actually, surprisingly little has changed from 30 years ago, when I was a small child doing my best to remain quiet and tolerate the unending boredom,  » Read more

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If You Leave a Note Before You Go Out, Will They Still Yell At You When You Get Home?

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It was something I was told a thousand times growing up. If you’re going to go out, leave a note.

By my mother when I was staying at my parents’ house. But not just her and not just there. Everywhere. At all the other places I stayed. Friends’ houses. With other relatives.  » Read more

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What Playing Video Games Has Taught Me About Having Relationships

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Video games have been a constant presence in my life for basically as long as I can remember. There are a multitude of people that I wouldn’t know at all if it weren’t for my love of video games, like the guildies I met back in the days when I essentially lived inside MMORPGs.

And there are still others who I would have known but wouldn’t have been nearly as close to,  » Read more

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