If Nothing Else, Polyamory Informs How I View Widowhood
“You know,” my mother says, “you don’t have to worry about me getting a boyfriend. Nothing like that.” She shakes her head. “Your father was it for me.”
“You know,” my mother says, “you don’t have to worry about me getting a boyfriend. Nothing like that.” She shakes her head. “Your father was it for me.”
I’ve never been enough for you, not the way I am. “I want to be close to you,” you’ve always said to me, “but I want you to do everything differently.”
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