When you first start dating someone, everything is new and exciting. And then after a while, even a great relationship has a way of becoming routine. Even predictable.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Here are 7 ways to make an old relationship feel shiny and new: » Read more
PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values [the values that are most important in myself and others]?
For the most part, I do a pretty okay job making choices that are consistent with my values. This is a good thing as it causes me a fair bit of distress whenever I depart from my values. » Read more
You Can’t Un-Learn a Thing
Once upon a time, I hadn’t even heard of the word “polyamory.” But when a friend came out to me as polyamorous, that changed forever.
You can’t un-learn a thing.
It was a paradigm shift. I no longer saw a strict binary: Monogamy/non-monogamy. With monogamy, as the ideal goal, » Read more
I’ll admit it. I think polyamory is pretty awesome. But what isn’t awesome? Unrealistic expectations.
Unfortunately, a lot of folks new to polyamory approach it expecting it to be a cure-all for their relationship issues.
Here are 8 things that polyamory doesn’t fix:
1. Polyamory Doesn’t Get Rid of Breakups
In fact, » Read more
“There are two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or to doubt everything; both ways save us from thinking.”
So Monogamous That We Have Lots of Threesomes
“It’s funny. I can’t believe how monogamous we are,” she says.
“Oh?” I ask. » Read more
“It’s nothing personal, Page,” she says.
We’re sitting in my car. My tiny blue compact, grandma-ed out with a black car bra. Her skin is glowing softly in the parking lot lights flooding into the backseat and just gracing her face.
“What do you mean ‘it’s nothing personal?’” I reply. “You don’t feel the same way about me that I do about you. » Read more
“I get that you’re poly and all, and you seem happy enough,” she says, “It’s just…”
“Well, what’s to stop any of you from running off with a new person the minute you fall in love? New people can be awfully shiny.”
I smile. “They sure can.”
“Seriously though,” » Read more
“The universe is not short on wake-up calls. We’re just quick to hit the snooze button.”
“You okay?” I ask.
“Yup,” Skypook says. “I’m fine.” But it’s in that too quick, all-systems-go kind of way. How people say it when they want you to leave them alone. » Read more
Mono/poly relationships, i.e., a relationship between a partner who is monogamous and one who is polyamorous, are notoriously difficult. Traditional poly blogger wisdom points the finger at both parties having to compromise and feeling somewhat shortchanged. The difference between the relationship structures is to blame for the trouble, they write. But I think it’s even simpler than that. » Read more
They tell you never to go the grocery store hungry. You’ll careen the aisles, salivating like a ravenous beast, sweeping entire shelves of food into your cart. And we’re not talking celery sticks. This becomes the time when we see exactly how many metric tons of Doritos we can cram into a shopping cart. And queso. » Read more