War on Christmas Lady I can hear her coming down the hall, talking to someone on her cell phone as she walks into the office… Read More »The War on Christmas. Or Monogamy. Or Something.
PQ 11.6 — Do I know whether the rules that apply to my relationship are subject to change? If so, who may change them, and how? What input will I have into those changes?
PQ 11.6 — Do I know whether the rules that apply to my relationship are subject to change? If so, who may change them, and… Read More »PQ 11.6 — Do I know whether the rules that apply to my relationship are subject to change? If so, who may change them, and how? What input will I have into those changes?
The Cacti of Tantalus A few years ago, I took a trip out West and saw a cactus growing in the wild for the first… Read More »Crushing on People in Monogamous Relationships: The Cacti of Tantalus
Emotional Labor Is a Choice “What’s today’s post about?” he asks me. “It’s about how polyamory can mean having to quickly shift gears emotionally,” I… Read More »Being Present Is a Choice, But a Good One
PQ 9.9 — Am I being asked to give up relationships with friends or family? * It’s funny. Back when I became monogamous with Seth,… Read More »PQ 9.9 — Am I being asked to give up relationships with friends or family?
Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Matthew Shadrake. Matt is a polyamorous switch and a big ole softie. He previously contributed “Firing a… Read More »Twin Demons: How I Learned About Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Monogamy
Jealousy Shamed One of the more surreal aspects of blogging to a wide audience is reading other people’s takes on the personal experiences you’ve shared… Read More »Jealousy Shaming, Gatekeeping, and Honor Students: No, Really. Please Be Jealous. I Mean It.
I was a child of the 80’s. Obsessed with Cabbage Patch Kids. Punky Brewster. This meant I came of age during the Jerry Springer years.… Read More »I Thought We Had a Good Thing Because He Never Cheated on Me
I really enjoyed your recent post on viewing monogamy and polyamory as a spectrum. It made me realize I don’t know a lot about mono/poly.… Read More »What’s Mono/Poly?: A Basic Introduction
Mono/poly relationships (i.e., pairings in which one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous) are famously difficult. While there are many factors, we do… Read More »To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum, Not a Binary