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“You know what my ultimate polyamorous nightmare would be?” I say to him.
“What’s that?” he replies.
“That you’d be dating this woman who you are just crazy about. And who is nice to me when you’re around, but the moment you turn your back, she starts being actively terrible to me. » Read more
metamour (noun) – a partner’s other partner
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“When are you meeting up with your lady friend?” I ask my partner Justin.
Lady friend. I don’t know what else to call her. Since I don’t yet know her first name. That’ll come later. All I know at this point is that they both swiped the same way on Tinder and are planning to meet up to… » Read more
Let’s say your partner is seeing someone new, the reader wrote. And you don’t really like them. What do you do?
I nodded when I got this question. Aloud I said, “It happens. It definitely happens.”
And I wrote a blog post in response — “Help, » Read more
Hi Page,
I’ve been doing the whole polyamorous relationship thing for about 7 years. I love your blog because it’s such a good mix of levels. There are plenty of beginner articles that I can send to friends who are curious about poly or just getting into it, » Read more
Hi Page,
I really enjoyed your article on friendamours. I did have a question about something though. My metamour and I ended up in a debate, and I wanted to write in and see if you could resolve it for us.
I won’t tell you whose side is whose (so you can remain impartial), » Read more
friendamour (noun) – a close friend of a partner that’s a lot like a metamour in terms of importance
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“Page, you have to help me,” he says to me.
“What’s going on?”
“I’m losing my mind. I’ve never been so nervous,” he says to me.
“Honey,” » Read more
A while back, some friends of mine, Margo and Emily, had their first foray into polyamory as a couple. They’d already been sexually open for a little while, having occasional threesomes with another friend (who had an anchor relationship of his own). But neither of them had another ongoing relationship, nor a connection where there were strong romantic emotions. » Read more
It always makes me smile, every time it happens. When I find out from my girlfriend that my metamour has been sitting in the car waiting for our date to end so that he can come inside without interrupting us in the middle of whatever it is we’re doing. He’s been gone all night himself usually, » Read more
PQ 23.6 — Do I give my partner space to conduct his relationship with my other partner, without trying to take sides in conflicts or carry messages between them?
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2011
“You were at Justin’s last night, weren’t you?” Michelle asks me.
I sigh. I wish I didn’t, » Read more
PQ 23.5 — How and when do I want to meet my metamours?
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As I’ve written before, these days I don’t have the requirement that I meet my metamours. I did when I was newer to polyamory and had different partners. (One of them was self-admittedly terrible at partner selection and would run new partners by me not so much for my permission but more for my first impressions and “read” » Read more
