“You have to be careful about what you fix….If you irrigate a desert, you might empty a sea. It’s a complicated business, fixing things.” -Percival… Read More »What Will You Lose If You Fix Certain “Problems?”
Sometimes I see other people weighing the pros and cons of a big change. Coming up with lists. Emotionally processing for months before they make… Read More »Emotions Will Time Travel to Pursue You
Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature. Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer –… Read More »Managing a D/s Dynamic When Your Partner Faces Mental Health Challenges
A while ago, I wrote a piece called “Abused Kids Get to Look Like Their Bullies“: On countless mornings, I glimpse my reflection in the… Read More »When You’ve Turned Into Your Parents, Just Not in the Way You Expected
2003 “I can’t go without shaving down there anymore,” she says. “And it has nothing to do with feminism. Or being anti-feminism. ” “Oh yeah?”… Read More »Sometimes It’s Easier to Recover Out of Spite Than Out of Self-Love
Have you ever considered, beloved other, how invisible we are to each other? We look at each other without seeing. We listen to each other… Read More »Dating While Anxious: Water Skiing, Cat Fights, and Ghost Boxing
The trouble with lacking healthy boundaries is that you can get away without having them for a long time. And when I say a long… Read More »Just Say No to Boundary Campaigns
It’s a sad fact of life that we fall apart in front of those we feel safest with. We keep it together in front of… Read More »Playing Pretend With a Tree
I grew up in a house where most of the conflict was very quiet. When nasty things were said, it was often in a very… Read More »I’m Not Mad, I’m…
It’s been great to touch base lately with some of my other partnered poly friends. My best friend Fluffy, while definitely polyamorous and possessing a… Read More »It’s Not Actually Easy
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