When You Know Something But Can’t Remember Where You Learned It

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My friend is talking to me about a study with interesting findings.

“Oh wow,” I say. “That sounds really cool.” I tell them if they could send it over to me that would be great.

“Sure,” they say. But then add, “Actually, I’m not sure where I heard about it.”

We spend the next several minutes seeing if they can give me some more details.  » Read more

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They Say, “It’s Just Like Riding a Bike,” But What Does That Mean, Really?

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Lately, I’ve been speed packing, cleaning, and renovating my house because I’m trying to get it ready to sell on a short time frame.

I’ve spent eight years living here. Eight very happy years. Eight very stable years. Especially after a life that had me moving around quite often due to a troubled family life in adolescence and then financial instability as a young adult.  » Read more

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I Don’t Get Over Things by Forgetting Them. I Do It by Remembering & Making Sense of Them.

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“I’m not sure why people keep saying my pieces are painful to read,” I say to Justin. “I mean, it’s usually a part of a ‘but I love them’ kind of comment. But yeah, they’re always saying they’re painful. And I’m not sure why.”

“It makes them think about themselves and their lives,”  » Read more

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What’s Your Conflict Style? 5 Approaches to Conflict Resolution

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“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.”

-Max Lucado

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As I wrote in a previous post, there are worse things than conflict, including perpetually running away from one you need to address. One commenter on that piece made a great observation: “Honesty and conflict resolution are so much easier in theory than in practice.”  » Read more

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Rashomon

“I mostly feel terrible about not getting into grad school because it was the justification for my not working while I went to school, that I was going to work really hard so I could get accepted somewhere,” I told Spook as we drove home from Chicago.

“That wasn’t it at all,” Spook said.  » Read more

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