It’s well known that dishonesty can be damaging to interpersonal relationships. When we find out someone has lied to us, it can be very difficult to trust them again.
But how about the other side of things? When someone has lied to us, even if no one discovers that they have lied, does the act carry consequences for them as well? » Read more
When I was a child, I was told over and over again by my mother that honesty was very important. That truth was moral and lies were immoral.
That was what she said.
And then she showed me something different: That telling the truth is important unless that truth is embarrassing or inconvenient to her. » Read more
“I get really uncomfortable when I’m not telling somebody something,” CC says. “It’s a lie. A lie of omission.”
And it’s at that moment I realize that I’m a liar. That we all are.
Because we think in clusters and long strands of ideas. But we speak in single bits. Discrete nodes. » Read more
Polyamory is Harder for Reformed Cheaters
“Polyamory? That’s something that’s for reformed cheaters, right?”
And I want to say no when people say that, but it’s a great deal more complicated than that.
While there are plenty of people who become polyamorous without ever being physically unfaithful as monogamous people, there are others who did. » Read more
Lately, I’ve been rolling around the concepts of dishonesty vs. an incomplete (or even merely representational) model – or similarly, inaccuracy as distinguished from explicit deception.
These are the stones that my brain tumbles in a constant attempt to smooth them.
I addressed this earlier within the framework of the popular logical problem in my essay, » Read more
You come to a fork in the road. One way leads to safety, and the other way to death. One liar and one truth-teller are there (you can’t tell them apart) and you only have time to ask one question. What will you ask and which road will you take?
Answer: “Which road would the other person take?” » Read more
Stop lying your ass off in dating profiles and new relationships.
Look, I get it. When you’re trying to meet potential partners or develop a new relationship, you want to put your best face forward. You highlight your best features, smooth over your faults. It’s like a job interview for sex, love, companionship, » Read more