It’s funny, looking back, how close we came to never finding one another. Our meeting was only possible due to an improbable series of events. A chain of questionable decisions we both made.
If any of them had panned out differently, we would have never met.
But we did.
I wasn’t sure about you at first. » Read more
I don’t know why they have to make love stories so huge. So colorful. So improbable.
Why they have to pipe in dramatic music. Force a tug of war. Turn one person into the conquest and the other into a conqueror.
I don’t want a lover who is going to burn me to the ground on the way to winning my heart. » Read more
In a recent installment of Psyched for the Weekend, I introduced the Triangular Model of Love as a helpful framework for differentiating between and communicating about different kinds of love.
In today’s post, I’m going to talk about another model later developed by the same researcher, Dr. Robert Sternberg: Love as a story. » Read more
Many of the conversations we have around love can be very confusing. Part of this stems from the fact that what we call “love” and what another person calls “love” may very well not be the same thing.
Furthermore, one person can talk about many different kinds of love, all the while using the same word to describe things that are not at all the same. » Read more
Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.
Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Here are the other articles they’ve written for us:
- I’m Too Anxious to Be Jealous
- Everything I’ve Ever Learned About Non-Monogamy My Puppy Taught Me All Over Again
- Is There a Right Time or Way to Break Up a Relationship?
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Growing up, I’d often ask the people around me what love was. This started young, practically when I first heard the word. “Love?” some would say. “It’s… you know, it’s love.” Drawing out the word, making eye contact and nodding, as if that were supposed to explain everything.
Many times, » Read more
I can clearly remember the first time I realized I might be in trouble when it came to my partner Justin.
We’d been talking back and forth in a group chat where we had mutual friends. I’d just lost over 100 lbs, and he was actively trying to lose weight. We both recounted our difficulties with the process. » Read more
I recently published an article called “When I’m Asking Why You Love Me, I’m Really Asking What Love Is to You.” I was pleasantly surprised by how much of a positive reception it received from readers. And how much of a conversation that formed in response.
That post is about how I realized after I went through my divorce that even though my ex-husband said he loved me all the time that when he and I were talking about love that we were talking about different things. » Read more
I’d been sitting in counseling for the better part of a 50-minute hour, talking about my soon-to-be ex-husband.
“What you’re realizing,” my therapist said, “is that he didn’t really love you.”
I protested, told her that he said it plenty.
“While he may have said he loved you, » Read more
“I love you so much sometimes that if I really stop and think about it, I start crying,” I say.
“Awwwww,” he says. He smiles.
“Does that ever happen to you?”
“No,” he says. “But I love you very much.”
“Oh, okay,” I say. » Read more