I have always cared a lot about other people. I wasn’t a person who was afraid to pay compliments to other people or tell my friends (and later crushes) how I felt about them. Instead, I was brave. I put myself out there. Openly admired others.
For a long time, this wasn’t reciprocated — » Read more
A reader wrote in with the following suggestion: How about an article about how to deal with it if your metamour does presents but you don’t?
On the surface, it’s a fairly simple issue. So let’s say that your metamour really wants to give and receive presents. That it’s important to them. » Read more
I dated this guy once who had the weirdest habit: He’d spontaneously talk about presents he was going to get me. Aloud. In front of me.
And then time would pass, and he never would give anything to me. Not what he said, not something else.
It would happen over and over again. » Read more
I’m sure most people have heard of it by now, but if you haven’t, the Love Languages by Gary Chapman is an extremely popular relationship framework that’s designed to help couples understand each other better. As a recent research study showed, lack of intimacy is a relationship killer. In a lot of relationships, » Read more
“Talk is cheap.”
“Actions speak louder than words.”
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what they say. I know what everyone says.
But me, I like that cheap stuff. I like being told I’m beautiful, interesting, funny. I love when a lover digs my mind and body — and most important, » Read more
Today’s article is a guest post by frequent Poly.Land contributor, Fluffy (bio and links to their other work below, following this piece). Enjoy!
The Tyranny of Value
Mental Accounting Ain’t so Easy
It can be very easy to start tallying the tasks, the permissions, the debts, the loans, and so on in any relationships. » Read more
Depending on your current situation, your love life could be affected a lot by this pandemic. Or not at all.
For example, my older sister is unhappily single. Gay and trying to date in a small town in the woods. That wasn’t easy even before the rise of covid-19. She keeps posting funny memes about how the pandemic has screwed up a love life situation that was already pretty hopeless seeming. » Read more
I’ve been meaning to cover this topic on the blog for a while. As some of you know, I write essays fairly frequently that deal with apologies. While research has shown that people are generally quite unforgiving (a finding I find personally depressing, as people are also imperfect and mess up, » Read more
I’m not really a morning person and not really an evening person. I function about equally well all day long (even took a test that confirmed it). Sometimes I refer to myself as an asynchronous person. How I feel is more a function of how much sleep I got the night before than what time of day or night it is at the moment. » Read more
“Don’t worry,” you say. “I’ll take care of it.”
I’m sick. Suffering from a hemiplegic migraine. The left side of my body has betrayed me once again by putting out its own lights. I knew I was in trouble the moment that the aura started. I did my best to close my eyes and relax. » Read more