3 Differences Between a Dominant & Someone Who Just Uses it as an Excuse to Be Controlling

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What is the difference between a dominant and someone who just uses it as an excuse to be controlling?

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1. Consent Is an Important Part of Dominance.

The bottom line is very simple: It boils down to consent.

A healthy D/s relationship happens between two people who are willing participants.  » Read more

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The Kind of Exhibitionism I’ve Grown Leery Of

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I’ve been on the kink scene formally for about a decade now. And overall, it’s been a very positive experience. I’ve developed relationships (friendly, romantic, and otherwise) that are incredibly important to me. More intimate than most of the ones I’ve forged in the vanilla world. And yet, being on the kink scene hasn’t been without its difficulties.  » Read more

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8 Lessons That I Learned From Both Polyamory and Kink

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I didn’t open up my marriage over a decade ago with an eye toward exploring kink. But that’s nonetheless what happened. After about a year of dating polyamorously, I eventually ended up with a girlfriend who knew some folks in the kink scene and had a strong kinky streak herself.

It was a surprising turn of events at the time.  » Read more

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