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Guest Blog Post

There Can Be Only One!: Toxic Masculinity & the One Penis Policy

February 12, 2019 No Comments

a Scottish long sword — Image by Søren Niedziella / CC BY

Today’s post is a guest post from John.

This is John’s third guest post for Poly Land. Here are the other articles he’s written for us:

Here’s John’s regular haunt, » Read more

PQ Series

PQ 25.4 — If I am thinking about staying closeted, how will I feel about concealing my important relationships from people who are close to me?

September 15, 2018 No Comments

Cinderella's caste at the Magic Kingdom Disney World park at night, all lit up

PQ 25.4 — If I am thinking about staying closeted, how will I feel about concealing my important relationships from people who are close to me?

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2010

“You know,” I say to Seth. “I’ve been thinking I want to come out as polyamorous. On Facebook.”

Seth frowns. » Read more

Relationships

Nothing Makes a Bigger, More Lasting Impact on Me than Kindness

March 20, 2018 1 Comment

statue of the little mermaid sitting on some rocks by a body of water - this is The Little Mermaid statue in Copenhagen — Image by Giuseppe Milo / CC BY

I have a friend who shows up early whenever I throw a party. Just a bit before it officially starts. And when he arrives, we pregame together while my nesting partner puts the finishing touches on the food. We sit and have a drink, catch up on old news.

My friend shows up early knowing that he’ll see behind the scenes. » Read more

PQ Series

PQ 12.7 — Am I prepared to bring someone I care about (or will come to care about) into a situation where I must dump them at someone else’s will?

November 5, 2017 No Comments

an artwork of the same cat, split into 4 separate images but in 4 different colors, clockwise starting on top right: black & white, blue hue, supersaturated orange, and natural tabby — Image by woodleywonderworks / CC BY

PQ 12.7 — Am I prepared to bring someone I care about (or will come to care about) into a situation where I must dump them at someone else’s will?

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There was a time in my life when I desperately wanted a cat, but my lease said “no pets.” So even though I really wanted to do it, » Read more

Guest Blog Post

15 Open Relationship Rules That Make Basically No Sense

August 28, 2017 No Comments

a neon sign that reads open — Image by Bill Smith / CC BY

Today’s post is a guest blog post from my dear friend John. Because I’m kind of an A-hole friend, I shared with him an agony-inducing article from the folks at LovePanky called “15 Open Relationship Rules for a Better Love Life.”

Once John stopped raging at its content, he produced the following writeup. » Read more

Mental Health, Relationships

Anxiety Says, “Save Often. You Never Know When There Will Be a Boss Fight.”

May 18, 2017 No Comments

a person wearing a Moogle costume (from the Final Fantasy series). Moogles are fuzzy white creatures with a big red nose and a big red ball on top of their head connected by a flexible wire (kind of like a single antenna with a ball on it) — Image by Andrew Evans / CC BY

For a while I was really into Let’s Play videos, playthroughs of games accompanied by the gamer’s color commentary. The best LPs are hilarious, and oddly like hanging out with a friend who is both wittier and better at games than you are.

“Page, you could never do a Let’s Play,” my friend John told me. » Read more

Guest Blog Post, Polyamory/Monogamy, Relationships

A Single Yankee in King Arthur’s Relationship Web: Single and Surrounded by Poly People

January 7, 2017 4 Comments

a weathered sign that reads "welcome to Camelot," the land of King Arthur — Image by Gareth Judge / CC BY

Today’s post is a guest blog post from my dear friend John. This basically came about because I was chasing the poor guy around and going, “You should write a post for my blog. It’s gotta be super weird being a mono guy surrounded by poly people.”

“Well, more like single,” John would say. » Read more